That offer popped back into my head the other day while on the phone with this same vendor. I find myself wondering if this offer was just a compliment, a way of schmoozing with the customer, or if it was more concrete. Next week I am attending a conference in Detroit sponsored by this same vendor, and will have an opportunity to chat with him, and his boss, at
I am curious about a couple of things:
- Would it be unethical to bring this back up?
- Have I waited too long to do so?
- If I do broach the subject, how can I go about it so as not to appear
- desperate and embarrass us both?
- Are there any caveats that I am not considering?
As I mentioned, I would be very interested to hear your take on this situation. I have decided one way or another that I will be moving on from my current position; I'm just unsure whether I'm reading too much into what may have been flattery, and whether this goes beyond leveraging contacts to find another job.Here is what I answered:
I think it's perfectly fine to mention to the vendor that you're looking for other opportunities because you're becoming dissatisfied with your current position for various reasons. Don't be specific about those reasons, and don't ask outright if he was serious about the job with his firm. Then let the vendor take it from there. I don't think it was empty flattery, but even if he doesn't have an open position, he is sure to be an ally for you in your job search since he obviously thinks a lot of you. This is the way jobs are gotten--it's all a part of networking. There is nothing at all unethical about the process.
What about the rest of you? Anyone want to weigh in with any personal insights that could help this gentleman?
Toni Bowers is Managing Editor of TechRepublic and is the award-winning blogger of the Career Management blog. She has edited newsletters, books, and web sites pertaining to software, IT career, and IT management issues.