The old print journalists got their reader feedback through snail mail. You'd have to be a pretty ticked off reader to go to that trouble. But with the convenient Feedback buttons located on everything they write, bloggers can now feel the hate instantly.
When you write a blog for as long as I have, you learn to grow a pretty thick hide. Now that readers have only to click a button to tell you how much they hate you, you're pretty much a sitting duck when it comes to criticism. At first, I didn't think I'd ever get used to it, but I have. I have become the Teflon Blogger at this point.
Some e-mails I receive, however, still manage to shock me in that the person writing so clearly missed the point of what I was actually saying in my blog. Still other e-mails make me want to go out and buy a bulletproof vest. Here are some of my "favorites":Toni is a sexist bully. After I referred to my husband's habit of not closing cabinet doors to illustrate a point about people who don't complete tasks in the workplace, I received this e-mail:
"I am very tired of women hating on men. Do you feel better about yourself by bashing your husband? Honestly, if you pick losers, I think that says more about you than it does your significant other. Secondly, bashing the male population does not make the world a better place; in fact it makes it a worse place to live for all involved. I don't think you see how negative comments like this work their way into the self perceptions of young people. That negative self image rots their view of themselves. Furthermore, I am disgusted to think that I subscribe to a male bashing publication that quite honestly is most likely all male in the first place. So that leads me to wonder if you are qualified to be in the position you are in, do you not understand who your audience is? If you ever bring up the argument the same money for the same job, ask yourself if you are truly qualified for the position you are so lackingly filling."
Funny, he refers to my husband as a "loser," and yet he calls me a male basher. I thought about referring this guy to one of my past blogs, Lessons my big brothers taught me, but I'd honestly prefer that he didn't hang around anymore.
Toni Bowers is Managing Editor of TechRepublic and is the award-winning blogger of the Career Management blog. She has edited newsletters, books, and web sites pertaining to software, IT career, and IT management issues.