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How to hack your beloved nerd

Not everyone who reads this blog is a geek, but if you aren't a geek but are browsing Geekend, it's probably because you've got geeks in your life and want to understand them better. Well, Rands In Repose has summoned up The Nerd Handbook to help.

Not everyone who reads this blog is a geek, but if you aren't a geek but are browsing Geekend, it's probably because you've got geeks in your life and want to understand them better. Well, Rands In Repose has summoned up The Nerd Handbook to help.

This long blog post explains the computer geek worldview and thinking style to those of you that don't share it; then it offers tips and tricks for coaxing your "nerd" into the shared socialization activities that make any relationship richer, deeper, and...well...viable. It treads a little heavily on stereotypes, but it does a good job of translating for the muggles.

If that's too long a read, it comes down to this: Nerds have tweaked their minds and their lives to accomplish projects they find interesting. To live with a nerd, you need to find a way to map your interests to his or hers so that accomplishing shared goals becomes an interesting project. Master that, and your geek will become the most generous and interesting companion you've ever known. Plus, free tech support.

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19 comments
hhaywood000
hhaywood000

I think i might show this to my wife. According to her rules, she can sit reading a magazine with the TV on unware of my existence for an hour but if i move to my office to actually do some work and help earn money then i'm ignoring her and ignorant!? I did try to remedy the situation by inviting her into my office and explain what i do with "all those bloody computers" but the most sensible comment uttered was "why don't you get annoyed with the cat for sleeping on your desk but when i talk to you you get funny?". THE CAT DOESNT INTERRUPT WITH STUPID QUESTIONS!

Scottthetech
Scottthetech

My wife does the exact same thing, and now the kids have learned from her. The only difference is she will send me dozens of text msgs when I am in the Cave. If I reply that I'm busy working, we'll talk later, she sends more till I have to shut the phone off. Never should have taught her to turn the phone on....

The 'G-Man.'
The 'G-Man.'

1. Hi 2. Hello? 3. You Busy? 4. Hellllllllllllllllllo? 5. Window Cleaner here, needs paid!!! 6. Hi, money??? 7. Don't worry, I'm covered, I mean got it covered. All the time hubarino is watching a blue progrss bar or a ...% complete display.

Shellbot
Shellbot

thing is, your probably not that wrong! ]:)

The 'G-Man.'
The 'G-Man.'

the wife left and filed for... Cat was still asleep.

BALTHOR
BALTHOR

Some think that digital evolved but I think it was one grand day of invention frenzy.If you're an adept at digital you're a geek really bends me.

Shellbot
Shellbot

Classic.. this ones a keeper!

brian.mills
brian.mills

that my wife and I both fit into at least some of the stereotypes described in this article. We're both nerds. Maybe that's why we get along so well? I'm definitely the bigger nerd, though I think she has the shorter attention span. Either that or I just have the bigger drive to finish projects. I was going to say something else, but my NADD is pulling me away to do something else non-work-related at work.

Wally Bahny
Wally Bahny

That was so me. Almost everything he said could be applied to me. Maybe I should have my wife read it...

hoffmanm
hoffmanm

Trust me, she already knows!

DadsPad
DadsPad

It seems to apply to more than just computer nerds. I know people that love to build wood or metal projects. The part about "This is what he heard, ???Spent an hour at the post office blah blah blah?????? " my wife and her friends say it is the same with all men. :D

Wally Bahny
Wally Bahny

When he was talking about The Zone, he mentioned places like the Kitchen or Garage. I suppose Woodworkers or Metalworkers could just be considered Nerds in those specific areas.

brian.mills
brian.mills

My wife's a graphics/print nerd. If we ever get a screen printing press, she'll be making t-shirts night and day, while I'm busy with my own computer-related endeavors.

AttackComputerWhiz
AttackComputerWhiz

My second-generation nerd wants to print and adorn EVERYTHING within a 3-state radius!

Shellbot
Shellbot

Except for the gaming part, thats my husband he's talking about !!!

DadsPad
DadsPad

Most of them are from people acknowledging how accurate he described them. One comment noted that the article was for people to deal with nerds, but most of the readers were nerds. :D

Shellbot
Shellbot

but i'll try to later..got a small attack on guilt and figured best get back to work.. however didn't last long..been working full throttle last 2 weeks..taking a bit of time this afternoon for browsing.. now..back to saving an ado recordset...its all fun and games..

GSG
GSG

The article is for non-nerds, but by it's very nature, only a nerd would read it. So, would the nerd read it, and give it to their non-nerd loved one so that the non-nerd could deal with the nerd, or would the nerd recognize that the non-nerd, after reading it, would then know how to get the nerd to leave the nerds natural habitat thus not bringing the information to the attention of the non-nerd. THAT is the question! edited for typos

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