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My ex put naked photos of me on the Web...


News.com started a series in July called "Police blotter," which intersects technology and the law. If you're easily sucked into the TV show "Cops," then you'll find this series even more addicting because it targets the inner geek that's in most IT pros. When I read the installment that was released this past Friday, I laughed my pants off.... ok, not literally, but you'll soon understand my choice of words: "Police blotter: Nude 'profile' yields Yahoo suit."

Here's the dirt: A woman named Cecilia Barnes tried to sue Yahoo after her ex-boyfriend, Randolph Russell, posted a personal profile with nude photos of her and her work contact information. Russell also went to chat rooms and enticed men to view the profile, which resulted in unwelcome suitors showing up at her workplace.

Barnes' attempt to claim $3 million in damages from Yahoo was denied. The judge ruled that a string of precedents immunized Yahoo from such lawsuits. There has to be a moral to this story, and I'd love to hear other people's suggestions. Here are a few of mine:

(1) When breaking up, always try your very best to part on good terms.
(2) Before breaking up, destroy all incriminating evidence.
(3) Even if your relationship is wonderful, start stocking up on ammunition you can use against the other person.

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Sonja Thompson has worked for TechRepublic since October of 1999. She is currently a Senior Editor and the host of the Smartphones and Tablets blogs.

35 comments
npowers003
npowers003

I just broke it off with my ex after only four months. Turns out I was right to do so, he is a stalker and is harrassing me. The police and an order of protection are set. He is threatning to put my naked pics on the internet. I need someone to help me try and find them if they are up on the web. He has been warned and it would violate a court order. Help....

npowers003
npowers003

I am actually in a similar situation....I broke things off with my ex who turned out to be a stalker(the police and an order of protection are already involved). I would like to know how I go about searching to see if there are any of my pics out there. Can someone help me?

Tig2
Tig2

Who in their right mind lets this happen??? The day a nude photo of me... Oh d@mn... I was photographed by my surgeon pre and post surgery. The purpose was educational and my face does not appear. There are some very few times that this might be acceptable. But I have to weigh in with the others who have said, "just say no" to nude photography. Or accept that those pics will go places you never imagined.

Kjell_Andorsen
Kjell_Andorsen

The problem with the legal system in this country is that instead of suing the person who actually did this, the woman is trying to sue Yahoo which unwittingly hosted the page he set up. The woman in question is being greedy, trying to get cash out of a company that really had nothing to do with the issue. If her ex had put her nude pictures on posters and hung them from light poles, would she sue the paper company that made the paper her pictures were printed on or the power company who owned the light poles?

jck
jck

I know she probably can't get him for using the photos...unless she can prove she didn't pose willingly... However for him to post them and show them to men and give out her personal contact information I think would be some form of harassment and she could sue him. That is sad someone has to do that to someone else...her ex should have to roshambo with Shaq.

TechExec2
TechExec2

. The moral to this story is: Don't [u]ever[/u] allow yourself to be photographed naked, clothed, or dressed in drag -- Rudy Giuliani! (1) -- [u]by anyone[/u] unless you are willing to have that picture posted on the Internet for all to see. ------------------------- (1) Rudy Giuliani (next U.S. President??? :^0 ) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IrE6FMpai8

techrepublic
techrepublic

No illegal act was committed here, so the people talking about "slander" and committing violence need to ask themselves why they are ignoring the laws of the land. Besides which, when women pull embarrassing or even violent revenge on their former lovers, our society doesn't get upset, but rather laughs at the men and rallies behind the women. Take for example a site called "makehimpay," which encouages women to commit acts of revenge against their former lovers by giving tips and suggestions. Their main page currently has a story, presented humourously, about a man who was physically assaulted by his ex.

sams69
sams69

my picture of me

jdclyde
jdclyde

unless your ex posted your name with the pics. It isn't advisable to ask your ex about it, because why give them ideas, right? I strongly suspect there is video out there of me somewhere...... :0 Wouldn't mind so much if I could at least get a copy! B-) As a side note, during an evil moment, I casually mentioned to my ex-wife that there are really cool sites where people post nudies of their ex's. No, I never posted anything, but with any luck, she got a nasty virus going out and searching for them... ]:)

Inkling
Inkling

I know I am being slightly obtuse... But what's the big deal? I couldn't possibly care less if someone posted naked pictures of me on the internet. If people want to see me naked that badly, all they have to do is ask.

HAL 9000
HAL 9000

Yes you just had to go out of your way to remind me of those photos that I had to sort through on that Surgeons computer to make space didn't you. :_| And now you're laughing just to rub salt into the wounds. :_| The Photos taken in Rwanda where bad enough but not terrible yes they looked nasty and not at all nice but at least the people looked happy at being treated. :_| However the last lot that I had to go through where truly gruesome. Some Local Surgical Procedures of Before, During and After shots all for teaching purposes. Defiantly not my cup of tea. The things that we have to do for our clients some times. :_| Actually I'm sure that he knew that here was nothing that needed removing I just think that he didn't want to go home to his wife so I was inflicted with [b]The Pictures.[/b] Though to be fair this was the only time I've ever heard this guy talk about what he did in Rwanda and he explained the injuries quite well. Now where is that letter from the Lawyer of that kid that Tigger beat up on I'm now willing to appear as a witness against her for her violent ways. [b]No Your Worship it wasn't a Costume Malfunction this person is just Violent and enjoys beating up people.[/b] :p Col ]:)

deepsand
deepsand

to the pictures and their publication, complete with hefty monetary penalties for breach of said contract.

gadgetgirl
gadgetgirl

Previous posters seem to have forgotten the reason for taking the pictures in the first place. Love. Not all of us can have our heads screwed firmly on, our brains in gear, and our hearts in the background when we're in love. It's ok saying don't take the photos in the first place, and I'm in no way condoning the actions of the person who posted them on the web, but I CAN understand the taking of them. At the time the pictures are taken, you ARE in love. You are [i] head over heels [/i] in love. You have [i] never been happier in your life [/i] You have found the love of your life, or [i] your soul mate[/i] You TRUST your soul mate [i] [u] [b] implicitly [/i] [/u] [/b] You have no qualms about [i] just how intimate you can be with them [/i] You have found the man/woman of your dreams that you want to [i] share the rest of your life with [/i] [i] [u] You can't imagine your life without this person in it [/i] [/u] The last thing you think of is that they will hold you up for ridicule in the future.... Implicit trust is one thing, but knowing that that particular type of trust will still remain regardless of whatever happens to the relationship is another thing altogether. In my life, I can honestly say there is only one person on this earth I would trust that much. But don't blame people for being so in love that all they want to do is please their partner and give him/her a very, very precious and intimate gift. I suppose it's pretty obvious by now that I don't believe in getting "revenge" after the end of a relationship. No point to it. GG Thanks to Dave-O for letting me know this was here - TR did it to me again, and hid it away as I drove home, obviously..... X-(

TonytheTiger
TonytheTiger

Man and woman meet at bar, get a little drunk, have consensual sex. The woman later claims the man 'got her drunk' and took advantage of her. Many states have changed their laws to say that consent while under the influence is not consent at all (hmmm, does that mean that a breath test you consented to after being pulled over is inadmissable if you were drunk when you gave the consent?), so the man is convicted of sexual assault.

DelbertPGH
DelbertPGH

I guess I am primarily talking about women having their pictures taken by men. Don't ever do it. Sooner or later the man will want to show this stuff around. Sooner or later most relationships (even half of marriages) break up. The idiot will post your naked body out there for the world to see. This is because most men are immature at one level or another. Wanting naked pictures of your girlfriend or wife is a sign of probable immaturity. Unless it's your own stupid erotic thrill to be viewed by thousands of unknown men, don't put this kind of thing in your guy's hands.

deepsand
deepsand

What's good for the gander is good for the goose.

TechExec2
TechExec2

. Sure... You can always sue. But the whole world will already know that the [i]CARPET DOES NOT MATCH THE DRAPES!![/i] :^0 :^0 :^0 P.S. Or, in Britney's case, they match but [i]THERE IS NO CARPET AND NO DRAPES!![/i]. :^0 :^0 :^0

deepsand
deepsand

in their past, particularly as regards failed relationships. Too many exhibit a highly selective memory, focusing on those memories which are painful, to the end that they both deprive themselves of lasting joys and seek to harm those whose once brought them pleasure.

TechExec2
TechExec2

. Posting nude pictures of your former girfriend, along with her personal information, and putting her at risk for her safety, is at the very least a serious ethics problem (at the least). And, anyone displaying such poor ethics would be someone I would disown to the greatest extent possible. It would not matter who it was. Friend, family, employee, employer, client, or customer. And, it would be essentially irrelevant that she might have done something to "deserve" it (*) Maybe if more people shunned such men when they choose to do things like this, there might be less of it. I believe in freedom with responsibility, but moral relativism can be very destructive. ----------------------------- (*) On the other hand, sometimes you have to fight back when real war is declared. I'm no pacifist :-) .

TechExec2
TechExec2

. Some people don't respect love. Some people don't respect trust. Some men don't respect women. Some women don't respect men. Some people don't respect innocence. Some people don't respect children. Some people don't respect animals. Some people don't respect the helpless. Some people don't respect anyone except themselves. ------------- The world would be a lot better place if there was more respect for others. Thanks for your post, GG. It was nice to read alongside all of the practical advice here, however valid.

deepsand
deepsand

In fact, women have already been busted for taking advantage of drunken men.

HAL 9000
HAL 9000

As it was used as a Defence here by some guy so far over the limit that he should have been dead but he got up in Court and Insisted that he was so drunk that he didn't know what he was doing and had no memory of the event. He got off on that then the Pollie's changed the law to just needing to have car keys on you constituted being [b]In Charge of a Motor Vehicle While Under the Influence.[/b] One person was convicted on this even though while he was admittedly drunk when he got off a plane and was searched and they found his keys on him he was charged with being in charge of a motor vehicle while under the influence of alcohol but here's the funny part he was arrested in Brisbane and his car was in Cairns about a 1,000 miles away and he had no control over it as someone else was driving it. He didn't cause any problems on the aircraft and there where just a couple of Cops out to make their Quota for the day and he was unfortunate enough to get hit by them. Col

HAL 9000
HAL 9000

Women need to be protected from those Violent males so they get all the protection and all the advantages while at the same time not being responsible for their actions. My best response is [b]Silly You[/b] for allowing this to happen. If you didn't want this to happen why did you allow the pictures to be taken? Much more importantly why are you advertising the fact now if you are supposedly so upset? After all money will not fix the original problem will it? :D Or was this woman just dirty for not getting a Sitting Fee? Col

DelbertPGH
DelbertPGH

If you hate hair, you just hate hair.

deepsand
deepsand

not wanting to risk really screwing up in mixed company, I decided not to go there. Personally, I prefer drapes with no carpet. PS. With true blondes, it is not unusual that the two don't match. Redheads, on the other hand, ...

deepsand
deepsand

It there'd have been drapes, the peeper wouldn't have gotten the pics!

deepsand
deepsand

At last, one who appreciates succinct brevity. While several have elsewhere taken me to task for such, I've chalked that up to their having ample time to compose lengthy dissertations, and forgetting that not all of of have the luxury of time for such. Had I the time, I could and would be as prolific a wordcraftsmen as any here; until then, short and to the point will have to suffice.

gadgetgirl
gadgetgirl

and very succinctly put. Exactly what I meant, without all my mush and drivel! Thank you! :x GG

gadgetgirl
gadgetgirl

Babz, I only stated my opinion! I must be having a dippy tart moment, cos I can't for the life of me figure out where you got "You could be so lucky" from....??? As for punishment: Madonna! " .... nothing like a good spankee...." ]:) GG

HAL 9000
HAL 9000

No assume the position and be prepared to get the spanking of your life. :8} I don't necessarily disagree with your sediments but did you have to insert that horrible song [b]You Could Be So Lucky[/b] into my head? :p Now I'm coming over to punish you as soon as I can find where they parked that bloody Concord. :^0 Col ]:)

gadgetgirl
gadgetgirl

I didn't want to go on about the security side, as that's a particular soapbox of mine. (moved from "ordinary" security to Information Security as a natural follow on)That would have ended up as an elongated rant.... I agree, sometimes you do have to fight back - but I haven't done this in an "intimate" relationship myself, as I don't see the point of it (haven't needed to up to now, thankfully) But as for revenge, I still stick to my original saying: Best served cold? Mine comes still frozen straight out of the freezer, so watch your back...at all times! I will take revenge; but only under certain circumstances. NeilB take note! :p Guess I'm no pacifist, either....! ;) GG

deepsand
deepsand

agreed that, in return for $1 million, she'd have sex with a stranger. When then asked if she'd do it for $100, she indignantly sniffed and said "What do think I am?," to which her interrogator replied "Madam, we've already determined that; now we're just haggling over the price."

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