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Find out if your work and personal lives are in balance: Take the quiz

Ever heard the story about the executive with the corner office who is a mess on the personal front? Executive coach John M. McKee breaks down a popular career myth and shares a free assessment tool to help you keep perspective during demanding times.

"How am I? Well, I guess I should say, "great". After all, I've still got a decent job in a tough economy. But, for some reason I don't feel totally great. But I can't put my finger on why."

That, in a nutshell, is a pretty common statement from people who come to a coach. It's one of the reasons why, in 2001, I created "The Four Windows Method" for our leadership and executive clients. It's predicated on the belief that each of us is more than just our job. Our lives are really comprised of three separate aspects:

The professional aspect is the part that goes out everyday to make a living. Hopefully this is something that is satisfying, positive, and offers opportunities for growth. The personal aspect is the part of us that does things that needs to be replenished and recharged with family or friends. The financial aspect is the part of us that manages our money, making sure we can pay our bills, create savings, and look after our goals.

One of the questions I ask people during a consultation call is, "Do you think you can keep your personal life separate from your professional life?" Very frequently, the answer I get is yes. Those folks are wrong. If you are serious about your career, you cannot keep it separate, forever, from the other sides of your life. Ultimately, the wall will come down. And if you haven't looked after each of the three key life aspects, you're going to see imbalance and probably problems at that time.

For a quick check-up on how you're doing, this link will take you to a short test we use at Business Success Coach.net. It will give you some feedback about how you rank in quality of life. To get into the test, you'll need to login with: Username: quality and Password: success.

Please use the comments area below to share how you fared and how accurate the assessment seems to you. It will allow other Tech Republic readers to make some conclusions about where they're at.

Here's to your future!

john

Leadership Coach

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John M. McKee is the founder and CEO of BusinessSuccessCoach.net, an international consulting and coaching practice with subscribers in 43 countries. One of the founding senior executives of DIRECTV, his hands-on experience includes leading billion d...

28 comments
pjohnson
pjohnson

either I over-analyzed this joker, or my life really sucks...

highlander718
highlander718

Why would that be plus ? If life is so great and all, of course you would regret losing it, no ?

jck
jck

I scored an 11. Is this a sign I need to totally change my life? Oh well.

gcdimarketing
gcdimarketing

Tell them to get a job and a scholarship. Then you can relax and enjoy your 65+. LOL Had to edit I'm so relaxed and happy I forgot to put in my score...71. Cheers

DMambo
DMambo

55. That's about what I anticipated. And I graded myself pretty harshly. If the impending costs of putting 3 teenagers through college weren't there, I think I would have hit 65 - 70.

thomsonk
thomsonk

With no disrespect at all to Mr. McKee, I wonder whether this is applicable across the board. I scored in the 30's, but I don't feel particularly unhappy or unbalanced. I have a job, a great pair of kids, great spouse, and no unfulfilled desires to speak of. I'm not saying that I don't plan for the stuff one should plan for (college, retirement, elder care, etc.), but I don't have anxiety for the want of a formal "life plan." Or... maybe I'm just an unambitious dullard!

HAL 9000
HAL 9000

[i]but I don't have anxiety for the want of a formal "life plan." [/i] Without a Life Plan to not meet the objectives of and worry yourself into Ulcers as well as other more serious Medical Conditions you are a failure. Come on get with the program go down to Radio Shack and buy yourself a Copy of their Life Program it comes complete with a VDU because you need it. ;) I actually worry about those who have their lives all mapped out as they are always in for a extremely hard time when their unrealistic plans don't meet the Time Line that they have laid out. It's often at the first obstacle that their wheels fall off and they worry themselves into sickness. I figured out years ago that it wasn't worth the effort in trying to change things that you couldn't change so I just go with the flow and get considerably more than I expect. The so called Professionals are constantly telling me just how wrong it is but they are the ones swilling handfuls of Tablets and constantly looking over their shoulders scared of the newest kid out of school is out to get them. :D Col

MikeGall
MikeGall

I did pretty gut but 4 vacations a year? Wow. That one's hard. Does long weekends count? I switched jobs a couple years from 2 weeks to 5 weeks vacation a year, but I moved out country to europe. So I've had one long vacation in europe, one long vacation back home, and maybe a short 3-4 day one somewhere for a music festival or something. With 5 weeks vacation I don't feel able to split that up effectively without wasting a lot of money and time on travel for short trips. I can't imagine trying to do that with two weeks a year.

MikeGall
MikeGall

Depending on if you count give me's or not. For example I don't have kids so how I deal with them doesn't apply. I don't speak german but my neighbours do, so I don't really interact with them, Hallo, and Danke are about the extent of my interaction with them :)

OldER Mycroft
OldER Mycroft

86 is an acceptable number to me. ((rubs eyes in a relaxed, easy-going manner))

.Martin.
.Martin.

go an 83... now just gonna sit back and relax... :D

OldER Mycroft
OldER Mycroft

What ?? Eh ?? Is it because I'm Scottish ??!!

imranc
imranc

Stay of the wisky first!1

.Martin.
.Martin.

quote To get into the test, you'll need to login with: Username: quality and Password: success. end quote :D

slacker400
slacker400

I'm more depressed now than before I took the quiz... Crude my life is out of balance. FAIL

CareerCoach
CareerCoach

Share your results here.

vwallis
vwallis

I scored a 62, and left out the "do not apply" questions. Overall, I expected worse, I guess. I do find it entertaining that I'm fairly well balanced in my unbalanced-ness.

Aljaro
Aljaro

The Money/Finances section has 11 choices. It was the only section that I scored perfect in. ;-) Actual total score was 77 and that's OK. The weak areas were not a surprise because I know the problems that need to be worked on (take more time off, try to be civil with the ex-wife, etc).

neilb
neilb

But after seeing the user name and password, I decided to pass on the opportunity. Well, we'll never know... :)

maecuff
maecuff

I don't need a quiz to tell me that I'm unbalanced. I don't think it will offer any real revelations.

rbosgood
rbosgood

But I am not.... I have a nice home in a good neighborhood, great neighbors, a great wife, a cool dog, cars that are paid for. I have a strong Christian faith and I am involved actively with my church. I don't think this is a one-size-fits-all survey though. I am 56, so no.. I am not at the peak of my physical health, I don't have the white teeth I used to have, weight creeps up. 4 weeks vacation?? I wish! I don't have big aspirations to move up the chain. I would expect it to happen, but it is not my focus. I also don't have any kids so no relationship to rate there. I believe I have enough money to retire in 9 years, so Things are looking up :-) lets have a cheer for us sub 50 testers!

mudpuppy1
mudpuppy1

you didn't pick "I have progressed beyond the notion of beliefs." And how is that a good thing? What a crock. Everyone believes in something even if they believe in nothing. Good for you. My score was in the area of yours and I don't particularly feel miserable. I'm making it up as I go (generally) and am doing fine.

rbosgood
rbosgood

I am a strong believer in Jesus Christ, so I guess I am not beyond the notion of beliefs. I doubt that is what they were asking, but it is the only thing I could come up with.

Nelson.Milum
Nelson.Milum

Of course, the test assuems that the test-taker is honest... I hope I was honest! I'd hate to have to lie my way up to a < 40 score.

youzer
youzer

I'd say I scored fairly high on this test,but I found it difficult to tie my feelings of happiness to "things". For me, it is all about perspective.

BFilmFan
BFilmFan

Unfortunately, your link requires a user account and password, so you are remanded to the special education class with me...

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