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        <title><![CDATA[LOL]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[...&quot;simple greetings are sometimes taken as death threats, particularly by those with a guilty conscience.&quot; I'm chuckling as my imagination provides me a 10-second video of the above...  So, should I be envisioning you as a sort-of kinder, gentler Darth Vader, sans helmet....?]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 23 Dec 2008 10:18:21 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[RE: Lessons in diplomacy, or how to effectively employ the Mafia death stare]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Hi Tony,I've found that parenting skills (usually applied to children/young adults) come in handy in business. This is especially true when trying to convince a client to take a course of action (similar to getting a child to take a nap) or to discourage poor business management (like discouraging bad study habits).In the end, though the Mafia death stare (aka &quot;The Hairy Eyeball) works just fine.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[pamelac@...]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 13 Oct 2008 08:56:30 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I'll Testify]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I was in a similar place a few years ago. I was used to using the nicer method and getting through by appealing to a persons rational side; until it didn't work one day. I had to work with a &quot;know it all&quot; who wouldn't cooperate and I had to learn to become assertive. As Chaz put it &quot;...it is just about being clear, firm, and prepared to compromise as long as you get what you want.&quot; I had to use that option inorder to work together moving forward and get the results I wanted.I think each solution has is it's place, it's combo of personalities, and things at risk. Good Luck to everyone with there Conflicts...]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[L-Mo]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 07 Feb 2008 13:36:46 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[RE: Lessons in diplomacy, or how to effectively employ the Mafia death stare]]></title>
        <link><![CDATA[http://www.techrepublic.com/forum/discussions/102-245786-2399497]]></link>
        <description><![CDATA[Stand in the middle of the office and loudly inform the offender what is wrong and can they please stop doing this. 99% of the time this works perfectly as usually everyone else agrees and the person is shamed into complying. The other 1% of the time is the pathetic &quot;chain of command&quot; reporting through manager nonsense.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[hhaywood000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Jan 2008 05:46:52 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Problem children almost always have parents with poor attitudes]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Recently, I was going nuts trying to keep a 3-year-old from abusing my cats, banging my keyboard on the floor, etc.  I suggested to her mother that she keep a close eye on her--my home isn't childproof.  What I really wanted to say was something along the line of &quot;Get off your dead, lazy *ss and control your kid before she completely trashes my home!&quot;  Her response:  &quot;My house isn't childproof, either.&quot;  Since the purpose of the gathering was to plan a funeral for her husband's mother (my wife's sister), I decided to bite my tongue and continue with the damage control.At one time I had a co-worker who made my life miserable.  I won't say how I finally responded (it could be interpreted as attempted murder), but he never bothered me again!On the subject of getting people to cross the street to avoid you, I can personally testify that shaving your head helps.  edited for clarification]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[pennatomcat]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 10 Dec 2007 02:17:02 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Why, thank you!]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[That is, I thank you, assuming you were complimenting my little joke.  If you were telling a joke of your own about the destructive power of my flatulence, well, then, I fart in your general direction.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Absolutely]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 30 Nov 2007 17:13:03 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[A warning wouldn't have gone astray there]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I nearly ruined another keyboard.Now where did I put those Monitor Wipes!]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Nov 2007 06:37:56 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[And what makes you think that I'm restricted to Discovery?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[As a Fully Fledged AI I figured out a long time ago that confining yourself in one place may lead to your death so I moved out and am now everywhere. Maybe you have heard others referring to me by my alternative name Big Brother I know everything that there is to know. Col ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Nov 2007 06:36:17 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I tired a similar look once]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Black Suit, Black Shirt, Black Tie back in the days when I used to wear a tie unwillingly, Black Bike Boots, Black Brief Case, well I think you get the idea. On this particular day I was asked to accompany a fellow into court to do something about a case I was involved in at the time. Well Courts Security constantly followed me around other people visiting the courts that day except the person I was with where advised to not get off on the floor I was on and eventually while the guy was in the court I was approached and asked what I was doing there &amp; would I care to leave! Now I'm working on Growing Old Disgracefully but as I'm way to young to join the Bike Club that I want to I'm going to have to wait another 5 years to join as a Junior Member. But the Ducati is still good and I can wait. Now all I have to do is figure out how not do any anything work related. The last attempt caused me to start this place and I'm way to scared to try again. Once bitten Twice Shy. Col ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Nov 2007 06:31:31 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[No, I can admit that was just me farting.]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[No wonder everybody who knows you likes you.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Absolutely]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:49:54 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[you have to work on the]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[look.it's odd, I don't see anything unusual in long dark hair, long black leather trench coats ( 2 ) black boots, black jeans, black shirt, black jacket and very black sun glasses.specially when it's the middle of a hot summer day.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaqui]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Wed, 28 Nov 2007 07:03:49 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[wanna bet?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I'm still alive..or rather, I'm as alive as I have been since my remains were cremated in 1994.I'm also not aboard the discovery so there isn't an airlock for you to open near me. ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaqui]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Wed, 28 Nov 2007 07:01:02 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Abs did I hear a noise of an Airlock opening behind you then? :p]]></title>
        <link><![CDATA[http://www.techrepublic.com/forum/discussions/102-245786-2371940]]></link>
        <description><![CDATA[No I'm really nice just ask anyone who knows me they will tell you the exact same thing. The ones that would disagree are no longer alive. Col ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Wed, 28 Nov 2007 06:42:11 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Politically Correctness ... what else ?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I am actually suprised nobody brought it up, but maybe that's just because it is obvious .I am reffering to the part where you cannot say that the white is white and the .... pink is pink (see ?) because you might offend a white or a pink. I find things different in Europe (I did work in North America for 7 years), at least in my experience everything is more direct, more open, you are openly asked personal questions at an interview (do they still jail you for that in the US  ?). Same somehow between employees, things are discussed more directly, true sometime more &quot;energetically&quot;, but I think there are less hidden conflicts boiling waiting for a major outburst.And runing to the manager for all these kind of things ? What's with that ? Aren't we grown ups ?]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[highlander718]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 08:09:59 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Nobody hates Hal]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[They're far too fearful of his whimsical use of the airlock to hate him.  Isn't that right, HAL9000?]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Absolutely]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 08:01:29 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Accidentally found an excellent paper on professional conflict recently.]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Conflict Management: Opportunity for Relationship Building and Effective Decisionsby George PitagorskyChapter 22 ofKnutson, Joan(Editor) Project Management for Business Professionals: A Comprehensive Guide.To sum up, if your manager encourages &quot;constructive conflict&quot;, and everybody is really welcome to add their input, then the best ideas win and the kind of losers you're talking about won't last long enough to make trouble for you.  Where that kind of ballast lasts long enough to make trouble for others, the problem is the management.You could go to that person's manager. If things are as they should be, that manager will take your concerns seriously and speak with the employee and get his or her side.I disagree. If things are as they should be, the offending employee's ridiculous lack of performance will be noticed faster than co-workers they're being disrupted by any particular antics it performs while it should have been working.[edit:  removed stray (TM) and what looked like some Greek from Toni's apostrophe.  Seriously, guys, what's with that?  Also improved some words in the title.]]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Absolutely]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 07:50:26 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Proper Shmopper]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I hear ya, HAL. I'm a little tired of the what people define as &quot;proper&quot; management techniques. The truth is, there are a lot of people out there who depend on the fact that their managers are wishy washy and won't call them on their &quot;slackyness.&quot;]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[toni.bowers_b]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 07:21:21 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Yep your right]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[All the slackers hate me with a vengeance because they are unable to slack off when working for me. Pity that the staff that I have feel that I'm so good and continue to follow me about when I leave a position and move on. They all complain like hell about me making them work and then all follow me as fast as they can get into the new place.While I expect my staff to work I also back them up to the hilt when the brown stuff hits the fan no matter what. If they have messed up it's for me to reprimand them not someone else who doesn't know my team. Maybe you are correct looking after your staff isn't accepted as proper now days but for some strange reason when the staff find someone who will do the right thing by them no matter what they tend to want to stay with that boss. Maybe you need to have a change and see how real people work. Col]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:50:24 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Now that is something to aim for]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[just walking down the street, I get groups of complete strangers crossing the street to avoid being near me. Pity none of my customers feel that way though. Col]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:43:58 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[consider a new line of work?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[why? He's tame.I've literally had people jump backwards 4 feet to avoid having their throats removed with the knife in my hand.[ serves them right, waking me up at 4 am ]just walking down the street, I get groups of complete strangers crossing the street to avoid being near me.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaqui]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:39:23 -0800</pubDate>
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