*I* am the difficult co-worker
Please help me. I am the person everyone hates to work with. While I don't care what people think, I do want to be a good team player and have a successful team.
Problem:
1.) Short temper
2.) High expectations of people
3.) Sarcastic and demeaning (according to feedback)
Example: Because of my workload, I was asked to hand off a major project to a co-worker. I was ok with this. I handed and stayed in touch for a week or two to make sure the handoff went well. In the short term, I saw the co-worker drop the ball and misstate things to the customer and vendors repeatedly. I lost all confidence in the co-worker and re-inserted myself in the project. Of course, the co-worker fought that continually and we ended up in a horrible working relationship - every bad thing you can imagine about a person is probably true for me.
HOW DO I CHANGE? I am aware of my behavior, but struggle when I feel people are dropping the ball and can't figure out how to "help" them without alienating them. Please help...counseling is an option, I just don't know where to go.
