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        <title><![CDATA[Movie reviewers]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[You can think of it like movie reviewers they go to practically every movie, to serve as an informed authority for others in their influence circles on how good it is and what the salient features are. &quot;Dr. Naveed Fazlani&quot;:http://www.facebook.com/DrNaveedFazlani ]]></description>
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        <title><![CDATA[Microphones make me stressed]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Microphones make me stressed.I don't know why this is, but the presence of a mike just sends my blood pressure off the scale, and I get so self conscious it's untrue.  When I get like that you can't predict what's going to come out of my mouth.A friend once covertly started taping me, and gradually brought the mike into view.  When we played the tape back you could hear my voice getting tighter and tighter.Apart from this, I would love to try the system.Oh yeah - &quot;CJ&quot; and Somewhat anonymous both gave pretty good descriptions of how I see myself.What I would really like is a device that detects when I am about to make a big social gaffe, and delivers an electric shock just as I begin to open my mouth.  It would have to be quite a big shock, because nothing seems to stop me in those situations, not even friends desperate attempts to interrupt.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chaz Chance#]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2009 08:21:51 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Asperger's and social interaction: Learn to speak in colors]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Yes -  That is me!1.  Long monologues.  I am 63 and have known      about this since my teens.  Even with      decades of coaching, I have to be      quite mindful not to fall into that      trap.    Answer:  Gauge your listener.  If they      are glazing over, looking around,      sighs, looking at their watch, trying      to interject a question, or       abruptly changing the subject maybe      you are obsessively on your &quot;splinter&quot;      interest.2.  Aspies as we are known as, are not      ADHD's although we have some ADHS-type      symptoms.3.  Aspies can be great in IT.4.  Aspies can focus like a laser.5.  Aspies can have narrow and long-held      interests.  Many are life-time singles.      Some have great difficulty scoring      points other than their own.  So      getting advanced degrees involving      peer-review, keeping jobs,      having good job-reviews are all a      challenge.6.  Obsessive-compulsive behaviors including      counting are natural.  I was once      hopping from railroad tie to railroad      tie in Philadelphia and missed      my cross-street by almost a mile.  I      was definitely in the &quot;zone&quot;.      Program a &quot;trigger&quot; to know when you      are in the &quot;zone&quot; so you can step back      and be the observer of yourself!      That can help with the monologues too.7.  At a previous job I was known as 'CJ' or      Crazy John.  The guy who called me      that was known as 'God' so we got      along great!8.  Suffered a lot of cruelty at school but       also did have friends.  Many Aspies      feel totally cut off.9.  Sometimes as pointed out by jalepeno bob      I broach socially taboo subjects.  I      shoot myself in the foot big-time at      least once every 90 days.10  I have to remember to tone my volume      down.  ASPies can be very loud      talkers.Cheers!-John]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 28 Apr 2009 10:00:20 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[RE: Asperger's and social interaction: Learn to speak in colors]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Our best friends' daughter has Asperger's Syndrome.  She does have a strong tendancy to either be silent or talk in long monologues.  For this symptom, it might help.  Some of the other symptoms, such as constantly shifting to new and frequesntly inappropriate topics, we all wish someone could help.  She constantly broaches tabu topics ins social conversation.Oh, well.....]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Jalapeno Bob]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Sat, 11 Apr 2009 21:53:04 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Of course there is]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[You already have the first required tool- empathy, and the second- awareness.  Add to those an understanding that you have to tread just as carefully with an Aspie or ADHDer as you would with a close friend, and you have it.If someone tells me what I am doing inappropriately, I will ask them to help me problem solve a solution for the behavior and add that to my coaching.  I will also ask them to alert me if they see that inappropriate behavior re-surface.  On the other hand, if they tell me &quot;try harder&quot;, I will shut down.Try to imagine how you would want to be given feedback if you &quot;heard&quot; the world around you as a monotone stream.  Suddenly, as in text, word choice becomes significantly more important.Another thing to keep in mind is that people with ADHD and AS often perceive words differently than you might.  Many of us can see spoken words in color, others can smell spoken words.  That alone can change the impact of what is heard.  Unfortunately, the ability to visualize words in color doesn't feedback information about how those words are being perceived as this proposed system does.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Tig2]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 10 Apr 2009 14:20:37 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[On working with Aspie colleagues]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Really glad you posted this. AS is still a relatively new diagnosis, so many adult Aspies probably don't know they have it - or as in my case - didn't know until a child was diagnosed.Keeping in mind that AS is an autism *spectrum* disorder, it can be very difficult to recognize AS in yourself, let alone a colleague. It takes many forms, from not being able to look someone in the eye during a conversation, to completely dominating conversations with minute details.To relate to what it is to have AS, one of the best analogies I've ever read was in regard to the tactile sensitivities many Aspies live with: Imagine having to put on a shirt made of steel wool. Now imagine having to wear that shirt all day. What may be a &quot;normal cotton t-shirt&quot; to anyone else *is* that steel wool shirt to an Aspie.This color patterning test is huge news for the AS community. I hope it will be available online at some point. It provides the kind of non-emotional feedback Aspies need to comfortably address issues such as social isolation.FWIW, my husband and I both have AS, as does our son. We've both had extreme difficulty communicating &quot;appropriately&quot; in business and casual situations. Aspies lose many friends due to an inability to express themselves. Kudos to you, Somewhat anonymous, for making the effort to be patient and understanding with your colleague. I'd bet s/he was and still is grateful for your friendship and willingness to overlook the moments when they came across as insensitive.I can never say anything in one quick beat. I do want to add that high-functioning Aspies don't see themselves as disabled or handicapped. We just see things differently. One way to sum it up is to say we hear in absolutes/black and white, but we think in all grays. We see detail in big pictures, but may miss the point of the picture entirely.]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2009 23:56:21 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Friends with an aspie]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I used to work with someone who I suspect may have Asperger's but I was never told he did so I am not sure. He could be very sweet and we got fairly close (platonic) but he did do the loud talking, long monologues, and sometimes quite insensitive -- he was always pissing people off without seeming to know why. He would joke about it, but it also seemed to make him sad.I tried to have patience with him and blew a lot of stuff off, but at one point his behavior got a little out of control with me and I confronted him about it, asking him to treat me more respectfully. Around this time we also ceased to be colleagues (he was a contractor and his contract had just ended) and our relationship kind of dissolved after that.We still email sometimes . . . I wonder if there is a way to be friends with someone like this and have a way to talk to him when he crosses a line?]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:25:22 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Asperger's and social interaction, also ADHD.]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[This software would also be useful for those who are ADHD as they tend to speak LOUDLY and frequently interrupt other conversations even when on meds.  It would give them an immediate visual cue on how they are vocally encroaching other people's boundaries.  With ADHD, immediacy is the key concept.  I hope the developer continues her work with this software, so we may have another tool to give the socially impaired another way to modify their behaviors to accepted limits.]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2009 08:36:47 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I'd like to see something else]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Some kind of visual indication that someone has tuned you out. For instance, ever been in an argument and the other person is arguing against something other than what you're trying to say?I'd love to be able to show someone how they listened to the first three or four words of what I've said and then tuned me out to formulate a reply to what their subjections say, not what I actually mean.If a red light went on on their forehead saying that 95% of brain activity has transitioned from listening to formulating a response, I'd know to just quit talking because they've quit listening. Then, if I care enough to be understood, I could break complex thoughts down to suit a small buffer size on their end, or just call them an ignorant jackass and walk away.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[road-dog]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2009 08:07:42 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[RE: Asperger's and social interaction: Learn to speak in colors]]></title>
        <link><![CDATA[http://www.techrepublic.com/forum/discussions/102-306168-3051315]]></link>
        <description><![CDATA[Way Cool!clmiller30@gmail.com]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2009 07:13:05 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Having interjected, &quot;mind&quot;]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[To, &quot;brain&quot;, regarding that engineering couple, I cop to, &quot;stereotypical&quot;, as in, &quot;together&quot;, as in, &quot;kaleidoscopic&quot;, where Toni treads. You, too.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[santeewelding]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 06 Apr 2009 20:04:00 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Risking]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[classification as stereotypical, the brain is not un-amazing.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[boxfiddler]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 06 Apr 2009 19:52:24 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Cooler]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[That it intrigues you, Toni.And, Rohn01, I think it's &quot;mind&quot;, not &quot;brain&quot;, unless you mean to be stereotypical.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[santeewelding]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 06 Apr 2009 19:34:45 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Cool ...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Cool, computers (potentially) open another door for people with handicaps.  &quot;Intuitively&quot; I can see how that could work, it's interesting to see that it works in practice.  The brain is an amazing place.It would be interesting to see what that kind of effect that application would have on &quot;normal&quot; people, in &quot;normal&quot; conversational situations. I've seen a couple of TV specials where autistics were able to learn to use computers and guess what, there was a &quot;real&quot; personality hiding under all of the physical symptoms.  Without the tool, those people were locked inside of their bodies, how insanely frustrating would that be.And of course, there is always Steven Hawking.  All of his genius would be held incommunicado without his computer tools.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ron_007]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 06 Apr 2009 18:36:56 -0700</pubDate>
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