I had a situation at my current job where a woman was often generating all types male bashing banter on a regular basis.
I complained about this openly once, they (my all-female-peers) almost kept it in check. When one would get started on male bashing, another would pipe up, "now wait, you can't say that, there is a penis in the room." Having been downgraded to "penis" was totally unacceptable and I put those bitches right in their place each time it came up.
On the last occasion, the main instigator and my roles in the team were to be in a certain area working together pretty much alone. She demonstrated her mastery of verbal abuse pretty well mainly by asking me about some personal detail of my life and then restating it as evidence of some profound character flaw on my part. When I pointed out this bullying behavior to her she tried to tell me that I was being mean to her.
Over the course of the day this abuse escalated to her throwing things (ie taking off her shoes and throwing them at me) and actual punching and shoving.
At the end of the day I emailed my supervisors describing what had happened and that I would try to take care of it one on one with her. I then emailed her explaining how I don't deserve that treatment with BCC to my supervisors of course. Her response was of the type you might expect (read http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse ) Apologetic, while trying to minimize and make excuses for her behavior. I responded with the link above and basically stated I wasn't accepting or asking for any apologies from her and that I wasn't putting up with any more crap from her(also BCC'd to my supervisors).
My supervisors (all of them lesbian by the way) were supportive of me and respect my contributions to the team. They made arrangements so that I would never need to work near her agian.
Later on through the grapevine I learned that she was telling people that I had retaliated agianst her for rejecting my romantic advances. Of course every one already knew I hated her well before all of this. That and she's 5'1 and 300lbs, and I have a super hot girlfriend. She lost a lot of credibility and hasn't exactly been fired, but is no longer on the schedule either.
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