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        <title><![CDATA[RE: What is the worst behavior a manager can have?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[All these behaviors are pretty bad. I wouldn't exactly put one worse than another. It just means they don't really know how to do their job &quot;properly and in a professional&quot; manner. Having manager or leadership courses should be made available or manditory for them.I'm in a limbo myself at my current company. I was hired as a &quot;web conent specialist&quot; in the Information service department in 08. But I do everything from website design, animation, development and etc. My first manager was usually around but we usually didn't need his help for much.Then we got moved into a sales department. My new supervisor was making all these promises for a promotion, making me a supervisor, making a new department and all. But he was never around. In the end he always dropped the ball with empty promises.So now I'm moved into the data management department!? Only now I have my first supervisor for Technical problems if needed, and I also have another supervisor who she states is there for our &quot;personal&quot; issues? Of course this decision was apparently made while my second supervisor was away on a trip. Some people in my department have been moved 6 or more times in a year. oh yeah, I was on a 35 hour weekly check for over a year cause of the economy. Since new move I have 39 hrs but not 40.During all this time I've pretty much managed myself, but don't have a big enough voice to carry in the upper management to get things changed and fixed. This tells me several things. They obviously don't really realize what the web department is responsible for. They rely on us, for the web, emails, banners and other digital media but treat us like crap since we aren't sales bringing in all the money. We are still peeons to the rest as they are concerned.]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Mon, 27 Dec 2010 08:29:15 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[And]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[the name...]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Sun, 26 Dec 2010 11:13:01 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I don't know about dangerous ...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Shouting back at a shouter may or may not be.I worked for a fellow one time who was a shouter.  Habitually.  And that was just one of his bad management practices.  And not even the worst.Now I'd worked for a shouter time to time before that.  In most cases, it was just the guy's way of handling stress, or communicating the idea of urgency, etc.  Not a big deal. For those types, when they weren't feeling over stressed themselves, were pretty decent to get along with and work for.  So in those cases I just blew it off and forgot about it as fast as the shouting ended.   Big deal, just words, a lot of noise ... nothing more.But this particular fellow used shouting in an effort to intimidate, bend you to his will, and offer yet another proof that he was indeed the big dog, with the biggest dork, and the longest teeth.  Oh, and to cover up the fact that he was not really as good at his job as he wanted everyone to believe he was.Now, a guy (or gal) given to shouting as just his way of venting frustration or stress, etc.  Not a big deal.  Lots of folk do that.But this fellow and his behavior was an entirely different thing.And, lets just say it rubbed me the wrong way.  I found it a trifle irritating, and sad, and sort of pitiful at the same time.Wasn't at first sure just how I wanted to handle it.  Get mad?  Or just LMAO until I was rolling on the floor?I was still in the US Navy at the time.  Newly reported to a new unit.  And this idiot was my new boss.Along with my arrival, by good fortune, a old buddy of mine also showed up within days of myself.  An ex-SEAL friend.  No longer an active SEAL due to past combat injures that gimped him up a bit.  Not so bad he couldn't serve in the regular Navy, but enough to prevent him from being a working SEAL any longer.No, I wasn't an ex-SEAL myself.  Had just worked with them in a support capacity.  Used to be a crew member of a unit that took them in, then picked them up later on missions.  And provided extra fire power when needed.Anyway, Old Yaller, my new boss with the shouting and ego problem had just got through with one of his idiot displays, and afterwards my old friend and I went and had a cup of coffee together.  I admitted that this was getting old, fast, and that the only thing that particular day which had kept me from losing my own temper.  And making as big a fool of myself as Old Yaller had been making of himself.  Was that I'd just stood there privately thinking to myself of all the various ways I knew to ... ummm ... cause Old Yaller to be shouting for a very different reason.  In pain.That had amused me enough to keep me calm and in control.  Especially given that I knew beyond a doubt in my little, limited mind, that I could indeed disassemble him and reassemble him in strange and funny shapes to the amusement of all.My friend, who knew me well, and who knew I could indeed do the things that'd kept me amused.  Just laughed and said that'd be too easy.  And besides, the guy just wasn't worth a trip to the brig, and probable loss of some rank.He suggested that while the direct approach had some merit, and would provide a few seconds of entertainment and gratification.  It'd be over all too soon. And then I'd be in the brig and busted, and Old Yaller would just be back to his old ways after he got out of the hospital.Instead, he suggested an alternative approach.  A little more subtle.  Wherein we could blissfully enjoy torturing the sucker and give him many, many &quot;Bad Days&quot;. In short, pay him back in triplicate, tear down his little empire in which he was Emperor and Dictator.  All without him being able to do much about it.Bless his devious little mind, one of the reasons I liked my friend so much.  He was right, of course.You never play the enemy's game HIS way, you play it your way ... and never bother to tell him what the rules are.So not long after our little conversation, a few days or a couple weeks, I forget which ... we were all in Old Yallers' office, a group of us who were lower level managers working for him, when he went off again.  Ranting and raving and getting ever louder.When my buddy, during an interval of silence while Old Yaller was catching his breath, suddenly dropped to his knees.  And on them, prostrated himself in submission, and then looked up and said, &quot;Yes ... Yes ... YES oh Great Master.  Ohhh, you turn this Slave on so much I can't take it any more. Whip me !  Beat me ! Make me write bad checks !  All I ask is that you make me obey and serve you.  I know I've been a BAAADDD boy !  Use me, abuse me, I can take whatever you can dish out.  Go ahead, try me !  Do your worst!  It turns me on just SOOOOO much !&quot;Chuckle, there was some stunned silence in the room.  Nobody knew just what to say there for a moment.  So I threw in, &quot;Uhhh, no fair. I'm just as turned on as he is, how do you feel about a three-some?  It's okay with me, I'm not shy.  I wanna play, too.  I like it when you talk tough like that ... its so macho !&quot;At that point the other guys couldn't take it any more.  Every one of them, except Old Yaller, busted out laughing in loud guffaws.  They had tears, they were laughing so hard.Old Yaller turned red, and his eyes bulged out. But it took him several seconds to figure out what the heck to do.  Finally he just said, roughly &quot;Ha .. ha ... very funny guys.  Okay, everybody out and get to work.&quot;What else could he have said?  Or done?And so it went.  Every time he went on a rant and rave, one or the both of us would come back with something.  Varied responses, but never something he liked.i.e. Once he was in the middle of one of his displays, and I started blowing him kisses.  Being quite obvious about it and using exaggerated motions.  Everyone else tried their best to keep a straight face.  And failed miserably.  Old Yaller got angry and shouted for me to stop it or get out.  I grinned as wide as I could and replied, &quot;Thank you, old great master.  My coffee was getting cold anyway.  Time for a fresh cup.&quot;Or, there was the time that he ranted on about how incompetent everyone was, how it was that seemingly he was the only one who could do anything right, etc.  So, not long thereafter when some machinery failed, for which I was responsible.  I made it a point to be real slow about going to the scene.  As in they had to page me.I ambled on to the area, and as I hoped Old Yaller was already there.  Along with the ship's Chief Engineer.  And as this was a nuclear aircraft carrier, the Chief Engineer was himself a very senior officer.The Chief Engineer was a trifle livid.  Okay, things happen, including machinery failure.  And this was a critical piece of equipment.  That wasn't why he was irked. It was because it took quite some time for me to show up and handle it.But, as I said, he was a senior officer, and not about to let his emotions get out of hand.  I say him make a visible effort to calm down, and then he said &quot;Okay, Chief, I suppose you have a good reason for taking your own good time in getting here?&quot;I smiled innocently and expressed surprise that he was upset.  After all, I wasn't REALLY needed, was I?  Why, just a couple days ago Old Yaller had given all the Chiefs and Leading Petty Officers who worked for him a very LOUD lecture on how they weren't worth a sh*t, didn't know squat, couldn't find own a** with both hands and a map, and he could do anything better than they could in his sleep.So, I shrugged, and told the Chief Engineer that I hadn't thought it necessary to get to the scene of the problem in any big hurry.  Would probably just screw things up anyway, according to Old Yaller.  So, let Old Yaller take care of it, useless me was going back to the Chief's lounge and get fresh coffee.LOL ... I thought the Chief Engineer was gonna literally blow up.  As in boom, pieces of Chief Engineer scattered every where.  He was all red, face swelled up, shaking like crazy in his efforts to control himself.Me, I was already headed for the exit, on my way towards fresh coffee.Finally the Chief Engineer spoke up in a loud, but controlled voice, &quot;Chief, come back here.&quot;I did, walked up to him, keeping perfectly innocent look on face like I could not imagine why he might be upset. He sighed, &quot;Chief, take care of your duties.  Keep me informed, personally as to progress.&quot;Then he turned to Old Yaller and growled. No hollering or yelling, just a growling sound to his voice, &quot;YOU ... come with me, we're going to have a long talk.&quot;Turns out the long talk was about how it'd come to the Chief Engineer's attention that Old Yaller was becoming something of a laughing stock amongst his people.  Word had gotten out and among all the lower enlisted about what was going on. They were re-telling, undoubtedly with some exaggerations, versions of what happened in Old Yallers office every time he went on one of his shouting rampages.i.e. At one point we were at sea on Valentines Day.  My buddy came up with a brilliant idea.  Old Yaller came into his office to find it flooded with Valentines cards, candy, and other assorted gifts.  A card each from virtually every man in the Division, expressing his love and admiration for Old Yaller.  Each expressing some variation of the general theme, &quot;Thank you old kind master for your masterful ways of expressing your contempt for your inferiors.  Keep up the good work. We deserve no better.  You are just too kind and merciful and good to us.  Keep up the good work.  Your worthless servant ...XXXX&quot;Chuckle, and just what was he gonna do about that? Would have had to discipline virtually every single person in his Division.It would seem the Chief Engineer knew about that (as well as other things).  Some thoughtful person had taken pictures of all the cards and presents, including some closeups of the card contents.  And placed em on the Chief Engineer's desk.Now, the Chief Engineer said, he also had to deal with this new development?  His Chief's morale and attention to duty was shot? They were so useless, according to Old Yaller, that they weren't gonna do anything without Old Yaller's direct supervision?(FWIW, the Chief Engineer was well aware that Old Yaller wasn't really all that good or knowledgeable about the nitty-gritty details of how things really worked and how to fix em.)I take it that the &quot;private&quot; conversation between the Chief Engineer and Old Yaller was long and ... intense.  In fact they Chief Engineer told his admin staff, who occupied the office outside of his to go take a break ... get out ... before the conversation commenced.  To stand out in the hall and allow no one in until the Chief Engineer notified them otherwise.So no one actually heard what the Chief Engineer said.  I'm only speculating.  But I'd bet it was something close to what I indicate.What we did know was that after that incident, Old Yaller had little to say most times.  Seemed to be trying to maintain a low profile.  Strictly business.  Asked for this report or that.  This info or that. Etc.  Til the end of that cruise.  Which was when we found out he was being transferred.Seemed a little odd.  He wasn't due for a regular transfer.  Would have taken the request of a senior Naval officer to get him transferred early. And that rarely occurred.Except for good reason. i.e. Could it be?  Loss of respect by underlings resulting in his inability to be an effective leader and manager?His replacement was better.  Much better.But ... things just weren't the same around there any more.  Kinda boring actually.  Without someone to tease and torture and make fun of.]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Sun, 26 Dec 2010 04:59:31 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[well played]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I concur. Both clever and effective. But, the slimy type might adapt. I'd be interested in knowing if the same person subverts this move after multiple occurrences(?).]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[todd_dsm]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Sat, 25 Dec 2010 14:37:53 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Sorry, dude]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[The link makes it spam.Merry Christmas.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[NickNielsen]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Sat, 25 Dec 2010 11:05:35 -0800</pubDate>
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        <pubDate>Sat, 25 Dec 2010 08:29:37 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Hmmm.  Different laws in the UK]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Willfully preventing someone from leaving a room against their will would (I believe) be considered kidnapping, and would likely result in a suit against the company.  Not a very good solution.While I would nod advocate getting into a shouting match with the person, your passive aggressive solution has some flaws to.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[W.E.]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Sat, 25 Dec 2010 08:19:09 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I agree, it's too clumsy.]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I suggest shite for a shorthand. You have to agree it could refer to a prototypical manager Finnish has h&amp;auml;n for all third person prononymical reference, that's so great. Not so good for gossiping though, can't so easily say &quot;and the he said bla bla blag, but then she said bla-bla...etc&quot;]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[AnsuGisalas]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 23:46:44 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Unsaid]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Walking into the situational with the foregone.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[santeewelding]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 09:48:24 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[yes, but...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[some don't. They are like bad house guests. The company invites them into their home. The new manager, potentially incompetent, begins learning on the job. In doing so they make mistakes, and like all animals, they begin fearing for their food supply. Once this happens all manner of poor behavior can surface.This is the point at which you need to help them to understand that it's not necessary to be a 'bad' manager. You choose the method of this 'help' like you would any other time: by what is situationally appropriate.Bad managers are thieves. They introduce greater additional cost to the company than the worker bees. Worker bees can influence some bad behaviors, for them selves and a few others. A bad manager influences policy for ALL other employees under their immediate umbrella of control.What should a company do if they find someone stealing from them? Also, ask yourself, what should that same company do when one of their managers influence policies that degrade worker performance, product quality, and ultimately, consumer confidence.It's just another form of theft. That's why it's critical to find the right TYPE of person for this position.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[todd_dsm]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 09:20:29 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[no question about it]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[but, that is the form and volume of communication that they've settled on. Dangerous? you bet. But so is sitting under florescent lighting as someone slowly erodes your confidence and self respect. The question is, which is less dangerous? If they are going to put you into that situation they are initiating the terms of the dispute. You are forced to accept those terms one way or another. The only question is:Do you go out on your feet or on your knees?They are betting against you, I'm suggesting that you can be a solid bet. Problem avoidance is the cancer in most peoples' life.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[todd_dsm]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 08:30:21 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[From dangerous to excellent advice]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[The more quietly you speak, the more people have to pay attention.  One of my mentors was elderly, frail and confined to a wheelchair. When he spoke he would look down, rocking his head from side to side and address me a voice that was so soft, I had to struggle to hear and understand. When he wanted to make a particularly important point, he would pause and look at me directly with a piercing gaze from crystal blue eyes. He was the singularly most powerful person I have ever met.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[SycoRant]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 07:39:09 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Exactly]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[NickNielsen]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 06:55:40 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[unseating a shouter]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I use this approach. Someone is shouting at me. I don't say a word, even if they ask a question. Instead I let them rant and rave and then when they have finished say &quot;Ok, I bet you feel better for that? Now I will say my piece&quot; and slowly, surely and with no raising of my voice I reply. Also, whilst they have been ranting at me, I will try to move round to be between them and any exit. This prevents them from leaving until I have replied and if they touch me to move me out of the way I will immediately complain of physical assault which in UK Law does include somebody touching you in a threatening manner even if no pain or injury is inflicted. As with Oriental Martial Arts turn the bullies strength against them.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[cynic 53]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 06:03:01 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[portmanteau pronouns?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[&quot;English has no gender-neutral pronouns to refer to a non-specific individual. How should she refer to a generic 'manager'? S/he/it?&quot;That suggests a portmanteau pronoun I will /not/ post.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[GrizzledGeezer]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 05:20:27 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[From my perspective...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[...the purpose of manager is help his or her employees do their jobs well. Telling them what to do is only part of this, and hardly the most-important part.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[GrizzledGeezer]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 05:13:57 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dangerous advice...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Shouting at a shouter only gives them the escalation they're after, and it makes most people look the fool. I can shout. Real loud. But I'd never use it for even a single sentence. The more communicative load you put on a shout, the more ludicrous it'll be.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[AnsuGisalas]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Dec 2010 11:30:30 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Don't take any guff from those swine]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I have to admit, I'm torn between a few thoughts: 1) Bullies in the work place should be handled like bullies anywhere else. My man Martin Heidegger said once, Identify your target audience, speak to them in their own language and, I promise, they will hear you; I'm paraphrasing about 60 pages, of course. Bully's understand bully language. If they shout - shout back and put some stank on it; if they are aggressive - be aggressive back plus some. Reflect their behavior until they understand that they are looking into a mirror. Be hard and ugly; make it stick. When the threat is eliminated stand down. 2) These people show others who they really are - you don't have to. Everyone knows what and who you are because of their interaction with you; the same goes for your boss. The majority of co-workers already understand that the boss is a yeller they will sympathize with you and you don't have to do a thing. These people usually unravel them selves. 3) Exposing them in a public forum: @cjreynolds - there are a number of people that say you should never be so explicit when venting in public, I am not one of them. Those people are cowards. Those types probably hope to take advantage of this 'stealth' environment that they promote after they've escalated themselves up the ladder into a similar position. Out them. Hugh Prather once said, &quot;Live as if everything you do will eventually be known&quot;. We do it with all other manner of criminal. Wikileaks is now forcing 'transparency' on the same administration that promised it in the first place. D-bag employers should have to brave public opinion as well.  Cheers mate. And, at the same time... I once worked for a guy that yelled at me to &quot;shut up&quot; three times in a very short span of time. The room grew very quiet, I'm a big boy too  I calmly brushed some lint from my pant leg, looked up at him and said, You tell me to shut up one more time, I'll throw you out that window and chase you bleeding through the streets. Don't worry, we were only on the second floor. The room went dead-calm. He asked everyone to leave the meeting. Once they were gone he explained to me that he was the boss. I said that I didn't care, that kind of behavior was indecent, and his mother would be ashamed of him if she heard him talking like that. He seemed to be having a moment of introspection so I excused myself. He asked me where I thought I was going. I said that I was going to clear my desk because I will not suffer a fool, the lazy, or a bully; god help you if you are all three. You can finish my part of the project yourself. But I need you, he said. Then we have a problem I explained...and it went on from there. We worked through it and I finished the project. I looked for another contract during the last month and left for the greener side of the fence. The thought of aggression sickens me - truly. But for some reason the aggressive only understand aggression. We've all seen someone stand up to a bully; they push until pushed back, then it's over. The alternative is they keep pushing and you keep taking it. There are only 2 flavors: pick one. Of course this scenario assumes that you have to follow-through to the natural conclusion. Otherwise you are only putting blood in the water. Assert your self and wait for some sanity to inject it's self, use a bigger hammer and fully commit. Everyone else in the office will wish they had the guts to do it and the boss will remain what they always had been - a putz. When you subvert nature you are only asking for trouble. No circumstance calls for changing methods that work, for methods that do not work.]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Dec 2010 09:26:36 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[let me tell ya!]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Im still a student, so I am thankful that I landed a spot in the IT Dept. at the school I attend, BUT, my boss is an underskilled, over-degreed, surly, mean, vindictive, rude, game playing peice of poo! He hordes his little power by stuffin his head up the bosses wazoo and anytime a person calls him on his behavior, he conives his way into gettin that person fired. Ive worked for him for over a year now and he is SO afraid of losing any power or standing that he will not let people even have a key to their own office! I have repeatedly told him that I would like to help more and continue moving the company forward and he constantly says NO, to any offer of assistance. This guy blows me away! I know that this situation is not the norm,(rational people dont act like he does) so I have faith that my future career will be MUCH better than working for this small-minded, scared, mean, game-playing tool of a boss! I so very much look forward to working with a group who actually wants to see the company do better and is invested in working towards that goal. Have a great New Year folks!]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Jrhorer]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Wed, 22 Dec 2010 09:31:42 -0800</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[RE: What is the worst behavior a manager can have?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Hello, Thanks for the wonderful article which is really an eye-opener. I am based in Muscat, Oman. I would like to publish this article in a local magazine as here in the arab world these things are more widely seen. Could you please let me know if I can do so? Of course it will be published in your name. I will put my name as the contributor. In case you decide that I should not publish in print media, can I mail it to my friends? Thank you once again for posting this.Awaiting your replyNeelank]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[neelank]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Wed, 22 Dec 2010 02:41:45 -0800</pubDate>
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