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        <title><![CDATA[Ah...yeah...?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Yes to all of the above...ever go to work to work, have the S.O. call and ask you to come home because now is the perfect time to make a baby? Well, I know of one such situation and the other 50% was right in the middle of a complete outage of all networks, internet, server, and such...at a police department...with over 400 officers...the point here is they were trying for a baby for 5 years...pop question what do you do, what do you do???  (I would have lied my butt off, say I need a special instrument that was just delivered at the house, and have an officer speed me home with full lights and siren... Give me 1,5 minutes in the house to pick-up the special tool, then blast back over to the PD....only problem here is that the participating partner, sorta, kinda, forgot to bring the special tool back with him...Other then the story I just told which is true, it is a most important to have a better , mutual, way for both of you to understand what has to be done to bring the bacon home. But of course it they are mad, tired, and they know your telephone number- there is no defense to this...:)]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Sun, 29 May 2011 12:40:06 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Does it depend on the need?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Server down versus dogs need walking? I think the family needs my income more than the dogs need walking(than can be deferred). I have left work when the wife or kids truly needed me.I was on a teleconference once, and my wife couldn't reach me. She ended up talking to my boss, who came into my office and asked me to put the phone on mute. It was an emergency and my boss understood and basically took over the call for me, as I went to my car.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[JamesRL]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2011 07:17:16 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Right on...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I get what you are saying about balancing it all.But in the end if I had to make a decision...to me...if the job has a need...and the SO/spouse/person in your life has a need...I'm picking that lady I spend nights with and days thinking about.I can always get another job.  Can't always get another her.  Fortunately...I don't have to juggle that ball...not yet, at least.  Give it another 2 years.  ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[jck]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2011 06:14:16 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Yeah...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I know there's gender bias from women too.If we complain about all their makeup laying around, it's gender bias and we don't know what they go through.If we leave one hair in the sink or socks in the floor, we're animals and have no respect or love for them and just don't understand how to treat them.Can you tell I was raised around 3 women????  ]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[jck]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2011 06:09:19 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Guys can be just as needy]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I guess I'm the rare-as-a-unicorn female IT specialst, and let me tell you MY significant other can be just as demanding.  I wouldn't chalk it up to just women.  Guys can be just as needy.  Work-life balance is a tricky thing, and when the SO thinks you're putting work first things can get challenging.  My advice is to try to plan ahead.  I schedule time with the SO and adjust my time around it.  Sometimes things change or sometimes things just pop up that are unexpected, and of course you don't want to be too ridgid or unspontaneous--make out session begins @5:15PM, LOL.  Showing your SO that they are important makes it easier for them to take when your focus has to shift away from them.  Just my $.02]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[drkangld]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2011 06:02:21 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Solve with Technolgy]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I have a doggie door. Mine come and go as they please. I don't have to come home, get up at 3:00 AM or anything else for them]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[bclomptwihm]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2011 04:36:33 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Communication is key]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Working from home as the author pointed out has its own set of problems and family members never seem to understand this. Interestingly they figure that the work can be done anytime. I have had my husband suddenly having emergencies that has to be taken care of immediately, and he is a guy who works too and knows all about emergencies. So yes, i think it is more of a case of feeling important for them and that they should not be ignored.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[qhabib@...]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Thu, 26 May 2011 21:50:53 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[I agree...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[The person complaining should've just shared their own experiences with the male SO doing the interrupting.Done theirs to balance the discourse, it might have made for a good discussion, and could help people understand what's going on from the other point of view, too.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[AnsuGisalas]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 22:04:46 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Defiantly not a clever move there]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I did that once well quite a bit a while ago and one time I sent SWMBO by plane to another city to pickup some item came to $15.00 that was needed that weekend.Her way of getting back was $2,0000 in excess Baggage charged to the Airline account and a $36,000 Bill from the place that I sent here to.  I've never sent her out again for anything that is in any way related to a Account.It's way too expensive. Col]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[HAL 9000]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 14:20:21 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Importance vs Urgency]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[This falls under the &quot;why do you remain silent until the commercial ends, then start a conversation or ask a question when the game/show starts up?&quot; category. Mildly trying to remain politically correct... and alive... I will say that family members in general want to feel important. This is normal and should be expected. There is a difference between something that is important and something that is urgent. Make your family members feel important when you have the time and make sure they understand the urgency when you are working with clients.When a person has the opportunity to work at home, clear expectations are required. I do have slow moments when I can take a break, but my wife knows that working from home still means working and not a free PTO day. If my wife does not like the partial access arrangement when I work from home, I have two options... stop working from home (she loses all access to me during the day) and quit my job (she gets all of my attention during the day, but no money with which to do anything).]]></description>
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        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 12:02:49 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Whoa - Chip Camden offers advice on how to attempt to solve this problem?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I don't see the advice part!]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[codepoke]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 10:41:16 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Give a little, get a little]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I don't do consulatancy at the moment, but have done. And my wife is well aware that there are times when work is a prioroty and times when she is the priority. When my wife had an accident, my work was very accomodating. In turn, she has always been the same. I have come into the office in the middle of the night, its part of the job. I agree with the poster who theorized that this has nothing to do with dogs....]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[JamesRL]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 10:39:32 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Resistance is futile...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Actually, I don't have to put up with that.  And if I marry the girl I've been involved with, I won't be in the IT field much longer anyways.  If anything, the future will have me waiting on her.  lol]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[jck]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 10:10:51 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Sorry, but I don't see the gender bias...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[being that overly played.  Though the author and the example have female SOs, they are just examples of life interruptions while doing work.  Any of the examples could be either gender or even kids or other relatives.  I've read plenty of more disappointing articles than this one.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[gcomputeronet@...]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 09:58:36 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Working with the SO in the consultancy]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Personally, I resolved the issue by hiring my wife. She answers the phones, and collects all the basic information for me, then sets expectations with clients. It's actually been very beneficial, as it not only shows her that just because I &quot;work for myself&quot; doesn't mean I don't work, and we've seen an increase in customer satisfaction (my wife has a telephone voice that could melt butter). Even with a new baby two weeks ago, she's able to assist with calls and setting expectations, leaving me more free to move from client to client.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[jeremial-21966916363912016372987921703527]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 06:40:44 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Wow]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[Reading this (and the comments) has actually helped me realise that my S.O is great! She doesn't work with me, but understands I need my time for work. If I do get an interruption it's something important, and I get an apology later that day for distracting my work.I must be a very lucky man?!]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[Noshmon]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 02:15:48 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[cost comparison sanity check ?]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[regardless of relationship, i declare every favour or help or so insane that costs me more (in time, effort, ...) than the other one can gain on it. i could have put full stop here, but, there always are exceptions that make sense. and love amongst other mental disorders  can of course cause insanity.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[bobijub]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 00:59:19 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Trust me, I do recognize the symptoms.]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[&quot;Whether the underlying problem is resentment, envy, insecurity, control issues, or fear - address it, as calmly and positively as you can.  Don't be afraid to set boundaries, and tell someone when they've crossed over the line.&quot; - this is part of the advice I wrote in my article on the subject. Which elements are in play behind the scenes, we may never know in that instance - but it's a fair bet we always know when it's our situation, whether we like it or not.]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[www.indigotea.com]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 23:12:41 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[My wife and I own / run the business together...]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[So when I'm working she never calls with 'there is a spider on the wall' but she will call with &quot;I'm working on so and so client, and I need help with this problem, asap!&quot;  So at least when she calls out for help it is for legitimate billable time.  (She doesn't usually call about the same issue twice, either - WOO HOO!)]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[BlackHawk1776@...]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 22:40:22 -0700</pubDate>
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        <title><![CDATA[Exactly!!!]]></title>
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        <description><![CDATA[I  like your response.  Mine is &quot;grow some cajones!&quot;]]></description>
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        <dc:creator><![CDATA[davcomp@...]]></dc:creator>
        <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 16:56:23 -0700</pubDate>
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