'To catch a wolf you have to be a wolf'.
In this case, to help a user, you have to BE a user. well, maybe not in that strict definition but you have to understand HOW they talk.
I like to spend time with some end users (friends) learning what how they talk about computer problems. 'My hard-drive is dead' can mean, 'my desktop isnt turning on'.
they may need computers but some of them certainly dont want to learn about them.
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