"I believe there is something to be learned from sexual harassment training, but it lies in identifying the subtler triggers like racy calendars or inappropriate discussions in the workplace."

Sure. You can learn what will get you fired or disciplined at work, and maybe you can learn some social norms that Mom and Dad forgot to teach you when you were growing up, and if you're really, really sensitive, maybe you can learn that what you think is funny or cute or inoffensive makes other people's skin crawl.

But sexual harassment training isn't going to change attitudes. At best, it will change behavior, and, really, that's all that matters because your behavior expresses your attitude.

One of the major problems with defining sexual harassment is that the people who will accuse person A of being sexually harassing will accept exactly the same language and behavior from person B because he or she likes person B and thinks it cute when B says and does the same thing as that sexual harasser A.

We all have double standards; we're all hypocrites about such things; and we all adjust our language and behavior to fit the audience we know we're talking to and acting on (but sometimes we fail and unintentionally offend because we make the wrong judgment).

Yes, some language and some behavior will offend just about all the people all the time, but other language and other behavior will offend only those who like to take offense and those who don't like the speaker/actor.

Everything in context. There are very few absolutes in life. Death is one. Maybe the only one. "Sexual harassment" is as easy to define as "justice", "equality", "freedom", "good", "bad", "delicious". All are matters of personal opinion. Except, of course, when they are codified in the civil and criminal laws.