I agree, frankness is different to unfiltered honesty! Frankly I am offended by the comment that "everyone spins the truth". There are, of course, times when tact is needed, but tact and spin are worlds apart. One is motivated by a wish to improve or maintain good relationships, the other is much more about manipulation and getting your own way. If we can't tell the difference then maybe its time to look at our emotional maturity and see what we can do about improving our tact.