Management
I agree with much of what you say.
"It's not the technology, it's the way people try to manage."
I speak as someone who has a CV that would make lace look solid. I studied science at uni and in between did the family bit. In short, I have the sort of CV that most managers don't even get to see.
The problem I face is that hiring managers - across the board pretty well - are looking for what people have done. They are not looking to see what a person might have learned whilst not working ...
In this respect, IT is no different. A woman with a 5-10 year gap in her CV is not going to find it easy getting a job no matter how good her qualifications are.