I'm a retired Gulf War vet. In the military, you can sit in the club, get drunk with the boss, and honestly tell him or her what's on your mind and most of the time there are zero repercussions from it, and often an attempt will be made to fix the problem. It's because we're all in this together.

In the civilian world, that's usually a good way to get fired, have an HR session, get passed over for promotion. Things get worse and no attempt will be made to fix the problem. It's because it's every man or woman for themselves first.