.......... the article, I agree with the issues of being an introvert, I am a Myers-Briggs personality type INTJ, so I know where youre coming from.
Take care, have a great New Years and enjoy those quiet alternate date possibilities!
Cheers
Geoff
Algonquin Park (Great White North)
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I'm so glad you liked the post! It's hard for me to post about being an introvert with social anxiety, so it really helps to hear that others benefited from it. 
It's good to hear from the other side of the table. I quite agree with most of what you say.
I'm thinking I'm not the only Introvert with allergies. Rose garden would not be my first choice. A park might be better, but it depends. I tried the museum option once. It started out great as I was able to get her laughing with my witty comments on various exhibits. It back-fired, though, when she seemed to be more interested in listening to the provided headphones spewing information about the exhibits than anything I might have to say and she pointed this out to me. Ouch! As for Myers-Briggs, I'm an INTP.
-Troy
I'm thinking I'm not the only Introvert with allergies. Rose garden would not be my first choice. A park might be better, but it depends. I tried the museum option once. It started out great as I was able to get her laughing with my witty comments on various exhibits. It back-fired, though, when she seemed to be more interested in listening to the provided headphones spewing information about the exhibits than anything I might have to say and she pointed this out to me. Ouch! As for Myers-Briggs, I'm an INTP.
-Troy
Ugh. I'm from Texas, and we are trained from birth to be nice to people. So for her to listen to the headphones more than you is just rude. I'm sorry, but at least you knew from the get go that she was a jerk. Sorry the museum didn't work out, but don't let that one experience sour you on it! Museums are super fun dates. Maybe try the thrift store/antique store thing with the next girl? I promise, it sounds girly, but it's super fun.
My mother had horrible social anxiety and I inherited a bit from her. I've been married for 12 years, but "date night" is still stressful at times. I will definitely use some of these my next turn at choosing a date night place!
So glad this post helped!
Honestly, as a female, more than anything imagination really helps. Cliches are cliches because they happen all the time. Driving out to a remote location to watch a meteor shower with a bottle of wine and a blanket, going on a sunrise hike...I don't know. Anything that you know she would like, but that you haven't done before will really go over well. Think outside the box. Even if it backfires, hell, you at least tried something new and different. Good luck!
Honestly, as a female, more than anything imagination really helps. Cliches are cliches because they happen all the time. Driving out to a remote location to watch a meteor shower with a bottle of wine and a blanket, going on a sunrise hike...I don't know. Anything that you know she would like, but that you haven't done before will really go over well. Think outside the box. Even if it backfires, hell, you at least tried something new and different.
Good luck! 
He stares at your shoes instead of his.
What most of these have in common is they provide a variety of external objects of attention to use as conversation starters. Sporting events can be good too, if there's a pre-existing common interest. For first and early dates, I'd avoid anything with long waits that can stall conversation; amusement parks, for example. It may be overly geeky, but it may be worth visiting a zoo or museum solo before taking someone else. Save experiencing something for the first time together for later in the relationship.
What most of these have in common is they provide a variety of external objects of attention to use as conversation starters. Sporting events can be good too, if there's a pre-existing common interest. For first and early dates, I'd avoid anything with long waits that can stall conversation; amusement parks, for example. It may be overly geeky, but it may be worth visiting a zoo or museum solo before taking someone else. Save experiencing something for the first time together for later in the relationship.
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