I think it despicable that a "boss" would suggest raises based upon someones gender, family circumstances; nonetheless, I know it happens. That said, performance reviews and salary information should be private. To the point, managers need to learn to manage (and motivate) people more than things and projects; take proper care of people and the projects will significantly care for themselves. From my (admittedly old-school) experience, I tell nosey employees to worry more about doing the job well -- if you are are that worried about someone else's pay, perhaps you are not adequately able to focus on the important metrics needed to complete tasks on time and within budget; we can help you adjust your focus or you can adjust where you work; with employment being treasured in this ecconomy, perhaps we need better-focused employees.