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well, it is official now.

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the Ministry of vital Statistics for BC processed the application in a week, not the 6 weeks they said it would take.
so now, legally, it is Jaquilynne Andrea. 🙂

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Hooray: one more discordance rectified!

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Of course, it cost thousands of dollars (does the Canadian health-care system pay any part of that? I think it should, but then I have some socialist prejudices about health care, and there is the question of the cost to the rest of the community), but it must surely be worth it to you to get rid of that discord.

Be sure to tell us in due course whether your erotic attractions are now to men or to women. What were they before, by the way?

lol

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yup, I need to see 2 assessors for the MSP [ healthcare ] for it.
if BOTH agree that surgery is needed then that will be funded.
if ONE says breast augmentation is needed then that would be funded.

removal of facial hair, any other surgeries than those two, have to cover the costs myself.

and I have always been attracted to women, but recently, that has been changing. :\

talk about messing with your mind, changing sexual orientation really does mess you up.

Seek first the kingdom

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and all else shall be added to it. The transformation you are undergoing will be difficult in some ways, but surely you are better off with brain and genitals (and hormones) in synchrony. You have chosen, rightly, to deal with a central unrightness in yourself; surely good will come. Fight through the problems, as bravely as you can. And you seem to be laughing at them a bit, which is all to the good.

Laughing? Naturally

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Well if I don’t laugh at the curves being thrown at me, I would have to be screaming with frustration.
and the respiratory issues makes that latter a serious health risk. The emotional responses usually given a negative connotation ( anger, frustration, stress, fear, sadness, depression ) all have a significant negative impact on your breathing, mine is bad enough already, I can’t afford to take the risks of taking things to seriously.

I wanted to reply to your remarks about your respiratory problems, Jaqui,..

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but TR is being silly again. I had forgotten about your breathing troubles. I wonder whether there is anything central one can have done about that; perhaps not: I get asthma from cats; there is a treatment available, but it’s easier for me to sleep away from houses with resident cats. I suppose that your problem is more serious than mine.

My Respiratory problems

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a 36 month bout with Bronchitis [ only takes 3 months to get a COPD diagnoses ]
Severe Emphysema
and a significant level of Adult Onset Asthma [ usually this means difficult to control ]

the only one of fix would be a lung transplant, for both my lungs. there are other people whose lungs function far less well than mine. The criteria they use is blood oxygen levels, and mine are still perfect.

I wish I could get a 100% avoidance of the triggers, but that just isn’t possible, there are to many. 🙁

edit to add:

27 July went to doctors cause of massive amounts of mucus getting coughed up. [ summer cold ] yet my lungs were clear, an increase in one puffer usage for a few days and see if it helped.
30 July back at doctors, puffers failed at 1 hour after taking.
right lung was full of wheezing sound and indicatioons of infection in it.
so a 5 day course of prednisone and a 7 day course of clarithromyacin.

3 days a a minor summer cold became a seriously life threatening issue. :/

So my fiend

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The newest treatment that is still in Experiential stages is to eat vast amounts of Fiber to change the Bacteria in your Gut and supposedly stop the problems that arise when your Internal Bacterial Colonies are out of Balance.

They say at least 800 Grams a day is beneficial and cures a vast amount of things that seem unrelated. Not sure if it works or not but judging by what has happened to another Fiend who tried it, it’s worth the effort. They went from 5 Puffs a Day to maybe once a month for the Asama Roids and over all feel much better after only 1 month. They are continuing with the supposed treatment as they feel much better and several other aliments have simply disappeared.

Of course they now look like a Rabbit are petrified of catching Myxomatosis and continually graze instead of eating. Not sure that’s a Bad Thing either but they have now started saying [b]What’s Up Doc[/b] and sounding like Bugs Bunny.

Might be worth the time and effort giving it a go if you feel up to it.

Col

Excellent

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Way too many people live or are forced to live lives that conflict with their true selves. Just another thing about the good old days that wasn’t so good.

further examples, dogknees?

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Apart from sexual dysphoria and its remedy (available only, I think, since the 1960s), what disorders do we have that force us to live lives in conflict with our true selves? There are social disorders, of course, like religious persecution (hardly a thing of the past), but I suppose you are thinking of physiological and psychological disorders now curable. I am on 9 drugs, each of which helps me be a little bit more as I would like, but I think that none of my disorders is of the order of magnitude suffered until recently by Jaqui. So what disorders is dogknees thinking of? I have been wondering off and on for about a day.

I hope you don’t mind

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I’m just gonna keep calling you Jaqui…just like my dad still sometimes calls me “booger” lol

Hope everything goes well for you.

why would I mind?

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Jaqui is the short form for Jaquilynne. :p

Well then…

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we’re all good, Jaqui 🙂

Hey, awesome!

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By the way, I don’t remember seeing this in previous threads, but did you ever start HRT? A lot of the people I read, and the few I know, all experienced a general sense of relief and feeling more “right” about themselves after they started.

And stupid me, I’ve been looking back to an old thread to see how you’re doing. Better to track you, assuming that functionality is… functional.

Much love, best wishes. : )

yup, been on it

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for just over 2 years now.
and tommorrow, when I see the doc, I’m getting the referral for the “assessments” to get the operation(s) covered.

the bust hasn’t developed well, so implants, which for a trans person are covered by medical plan.
and with 2 signatures / letters saying the actual gender reassignment surgery is a go, that is also covered.

took me 4 hours on the phone to connect with right person in the ministry of health, just to find out the referral for the assessments hadn’t gotten through. got her name and fax number so can get that fixed tomorrow when seeing doc for prescription renewals.

wow, this is a shocker

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all it takes is a small, 2 page form to Vital Statistics here and the M can be changed to F on my birth certificate,
Driver’s License, passport ect.
even BEFORE the snip and tuck operation.

Well if it makes you feel better Mate

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I can delete the thread. 😉

Though it may by now be too late to reverse the changes. :p

However the evidence will be gone.

Col

[i]edited to add[/i] after 400 edits very few of the motions are still working. Yet another thing wrong with the site.

I didn’t know this side of you

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Congrats on making the change.

I have to admit I am curious how everything functions afterwards.

So if you don’t mine me asking.
How do you pee? Like is it coming out of your new … hole… or is it re-routed somewhere?

Also, how does *** work now? Or is it sort of a back door only thing?

Jaqui doesn’t seem to be answering Slayer_

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so perhaps I may. The ***** is a thickened extension of the urethra. When the ***** is removed the rest of the urethra is still there (in sex reassignment surgery they must remove the prostate as well, making the patient even more womanly). Usually the outer skin of the ***** is embedded in the musculature to form a ******, which works just like one formed in the mother’s womb of a person female both in brain and genitals. Unfortunately, there is as yet no technique for forming a womb, let alone ovaries, so conception and childbirth are impossible. And hormone injections remain necessary.

That sounds really painful

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Damn that’s a hell of an ordeal.

I bet Jaqui is really happy that’s over and done with and finally the correct gender.

I didn’t know this side of you

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Congrats on making the change.

I have to admit I am curious how everything functions afterwards.

So if you don’t mine me asking.
How do you pee? Like is it coming out of your new … hole… or is it re-routed somewhere?

Also, how does sex work now? Or is it sort of a back door only thing?

I didn’t know this side of you

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Congrats on making the change.

I have to admit I am curious how everything functions afterwards.

So if you don’t mind me asking.
How do you pee? Like is it coming out of your new … hole… or is it re-routed somewhere?

Also, how does sex work now? Or is it sort of a back door only thing?

This is a very long thread already, but something has come up

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I get a lot of email from various sources, and even some snail mail, which tells me that sexual dysphoria is not neurological but psychological, so that appropriate psychotherapy can cure it – presumably at much less cost in human effort and patient comfort than the operation. Some such mail comes from rather dubious sources, but some seems quite serious and even includes testimonies from people claiming to have been so cured. What does Jacqui think of this kind of claim?

My own guess (I am neither a psychologist nor a neurologist) is that both kinds are to be found; a second guess (even more out on a limb) is that the neurological kind, the kind for which sex reassignment surgery is appropriate, arises where birth genital sex does not correspond to the chromosomes. What kind of chromosomes do you have, Jacqui?

On a related theme, in March someone in Ontario was convicted of sexual molestation of women in a women’s shelter, to which he had gained admission by claiming to be transgender. This has consequences for the washroom controversy.

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