Career expert Andrea Kay has a six-question technique she recommends for anyone who is experiencing a career problem. She says that by answering these six questions (at your own pace), you'll be able to "clarify what's eating at you, how you want things to be different, what you need to do and whether you're willing to do it."
The questions are:
- What is your problem?
- Why is that a problem? What troubles you about that?
- How do you want this situation to be? If this problem were solved, what would the situation be like? How would you feel?
- What's stopping you from making that happen?
- What do you need to do to make that happen? What needs to change? What do you need to ask of others? What do you need to change inside yourself?
- Now that you know what needs to be done, what are you going to do?
I think these questions are useful in that they allow you to step back and look at your problem somewhat objectively. (She also has a sample of answers to the questions here to see how it's done.)
Give it a shot and let me know if it works for you.