Occasionally, I come across ideas and tips that really deserve to be shared. The following ideas may actually improve your game. They aren't mine, but they need to be seen by more folks. Plus a couple are actually fun.Check out these "How To's" and see what you think: Five ways to feign sincerity - (Important for anyone who has a boss just so-full-of-himself you can't stand it.)
- Make eye contact: Nothing says sincere like a willingness to plumb the depths of your acquaintance's soul.
- Stare at the table for a minute: Sometimes things get so outstanding you just need a minute to stare...to re-evaluate your place in the universe.
- Overshare: Doesn't matter if it's relevant...this will make it seem like you're really in deep.
- Swivel your head: Nodding yes means I get it, shut up. But a slow "no" means I can't believe the fascinating things you're telling me!
- Lean back in your chair: This says you're totally relaxed... ready to hear some secrets. (These were courtesy of Wired Magazine, August 2008.)
- Set measurable goals: Have written expectations and track progress weekly. But let the employee determine how and when to get the job done. Says Cali Ressler, co-author of "Why Work Sucks," Managers have to learn not to be hall monitors." I say: Amen!
- Eradicate Toxic Language: Snarky asides about the # of hours people are putting in can undermine a results-only effort.
- Set an example: Take the afternoon off. The boss has to show it really is ok to leave the office. (From INC Magazine, Aug 2008)
- Jerks not afraid to go first - they'll take something while you're being polite.
- They feel both entitled and deserving - so they have no compunction about going after things
- They don't mind hurting your feelings, after all it's your fault if you get hurt, right?
- You know where they're coming from - they're clear about what they want and don't want. Compare that with the "nice" ones who make you crazy because they won't make a call. (The book's title is a little more colorful by the way. This item came from The Los Angeles Times, July 27, 2008, Solve Anything with Dr Mark.)
Use any or all of these with caution.
John M. McKee is the founder and CEO of BusinessSuccessCoach.net, an international consulting and coaching practice with subscribers in 43 countries. One of the founding senior executives of DIRECTV, his hands-on experience includes leading billion dollar organizations and launching start-ups in both the U.S. and Canada. The author of two published books, he is frequently seen providing advice on TV, in magazines, and newspapers.