At my present job which I started two years ago, the manager has completely stereotyped me and bypassed me for everything probably because I had just come back from two years off (in school again so was a little rusty), before that I was doing great and well-respected as a developer and project coordinator at a large company. I will admit when I started this job I was a bit rusty and had been kind of hanging out with students and web designers for awhile!
This guy has just proceeded to make a joke total out of me (and other people here too) and constantly hires contractors to do my job. Top this off with that he leers at me in these wierd ways and whenever I go into his office to discuss something serious he makes wierd sexual comments out of stuff I say like ‘how do you want it?’ becomes something else or ‘put it in’ for a program becomes an eyebrow raiser for him and stuff like that. He makes me really uncomfortable and sick actually. At one point he began stroking and rubbing his upper inner thighs and just to see if I would still continuing talking about the project. When I get distracted by it and the converstaion declines or ends, he seems quite happy with that that I never got finish what I was saying. At that point I do become ineffective in the conversation. I think he even percieves this that I am attracted to what he was doing. Then too, just yesterday, in another attempt to have a conversation about my career as I have sat at the desk with NOTHING for four months now (I sit there and write Java apps for my own benefit!!!) when I was talkign to him, sure enough he started stroking his lips and looking at me funny. I kind of made a face at it and tried to continue but it really lets you know where his head is at with listening thats for sure.
He then has slammed me in my review that I have no communcation skills but whenever I try and discuss something he does this belittling wierd creepy stuff and doesnt listen.
I have over ten years experienece as a developer, a degree in computer science and now another technical diploma, I have good references. I am also a female and an artist, pretty good looking I guess, maybe this throws him off. The deal is that this is an institution so they don’t have a need for project deadlines or anything else, plus this guy can do whatever he wants and has limited accountability, ie. old boys club that reaches the top really quickly. The stunts he has pulled with assignments and skills have been unbelievable.
It is the most miserable humiliating nightmare I have ever experienced and it is happening at a really bad point in my career when I am just needing to get my skills happening again. His latest trick is to purposely give me as menial assignments as possible just for the fun of it. I’d actually like to punch his lights out.He’s like this short stubby dude with big puffy sideburns, he is only a few years older than me in reality but I would never go out with him for real. I would rather have someone pound him out in the parking lot!!!This is not a joke though at all. In the meantime while I am sending out as many resumes as I can, my skills are hanging on by a thread. I am taking classes at night now compensate. It is quite awful plus I’m a single mother which is adding more stress!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel this is a case of sexual harrassment in a way or something.