First of all, in your question you say Win2k server, in a later comment you say NT4. But here is your answer anyways.
The correct answer DOES come from Q120642, you just need to know how to interpret it.
If you have read RFC791, which is the foundation for IPv4 (can be found at http://rfc.net/rfc0791.html) You may very well realize something about the parameters that you have overlooked. Obviously your server is adding in the extra parameters in your header for a reason. The reason is it's probably added into your registry for something or another.
Please go to your registry (Start>Run>Regedit)
and go to this Key.
HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\System\CurrentControlSet\Services\Tcpip\Parameters
Your Adapter may/may not have a folder in between services and Tcpip... then it would be ...\services\'adaptername'\tcpip\parameters.
and look for the key called "DefaultTOS" It may have been added in there by a program you might have installed,
with this entry, a value of no options will automatically be added to your header, if you delete it, it will probably drop it back down to the default size (of what it recieved)...
Note that DefaultTOS is not available in Windows 2000.
Now, in the case of Win2K, is your Firewall hardware? software?what kind of firewall is this, please feel free to Email me directly, and I'll see what I can do about giving you the correct configuration for your particular firewall.
michael.roark@4its.org
Good Luck