A/R guys are all like that.
[b]Bruce Allen[/b], Brian Adams/Michael Buble/Anne Murray/Rock and Hyde etc. TOTAL prikk in most people's eyes but VERY successful in his career and someone the best talent begs to have on their side.
[b]Sharon Osbourne[/b]Ozzy and countless others she has taken under her wing and showcases through OzzFest, mouthy, crass, hard a$$, and the best manager any touring band could hope for.
[b]Simon Cowell[/b](better known British pop acts) Angelis, Curiosity Killed the Cat, 5ive, Gareth Gates, Il Divo, Journey South, Robson & Jerome, Bianca Ryan, Sinitta, Sonia, Westlife, Will Young
[b]Bob Rock[/b]Metallica, Motley Crue, Aerosmith, BonJovi, The Cult, Skid Row, David Lee Roth, the Tea Party, Tragically Hip etc.
[b]Mutt Lange[/b] AC/DC,Def Leppard, Foreigner, The Cars, Bryan Adams, etc.
Its a job that makes you thick skinned and soft hearted. You learn to take no crap from anyone, get straight to the top in a hard, overpopulated marketplace simply but not letting people slow you down.
Cowell is actually known to be fun, easy going, loving and caring and laid back, as a person, not a businessman. I think he plays on his 'image' more than he lets on.
When I first started learning the ropes in the music industry, I worked alongside a guy who I HATED I thought he was the most uncaring and unfeeling a$$hole I'd ever met.
years after I stopped working with him and had worked with several others just like him, I began to see what makes all these people the same. They are hard, they are kind and warm, but hard.
I have become much the same myself, I had a friend tell me a few weeks back that, just when he thinks I'm the biggest prikk on the planet, I do something that blows him away and makes him realize I'm one of the nicest guys he knows.
Some people feel the surface and get scared, but once you break through the tough skin you find a real person that will be your best ally when needed.
People thank me for saying what they WANTED to say all the time, the people that I pi$$ off are people that need to be kept at bay or else they run all over you. I am not comparing myself to any of the people I mentioned above, I can only hope for such success, but it is something that runs through the industry and those that win are never sweethearts on the surface.
Its just not an industry for the faint hearted or easily offended and its not a business for soft people, passive caring personalities.