quistion on the remote desktoping

now my question is when you type the IP adress and you connect dose there have to be a person on the other side at all times to hit ok? (sometimes i forget to log off) when i am traviling with my laptop i connect but it wont let me connect fully because the user is still signed on is there a way i can make it so it just boots my loged on account off with out someone on the other side hitting ok?