router problem pls help...

Keep in mind, free versions of VNC are not secure.

If you can, you should restrict the ip's that can connect to your office machine.

I didn't bother to look up your router model, you should .. if your router model has a built in PPTP server you could use that for slightly better security.

And on another note, you could install Hamachi on both machines and use the hamachi vpn client as a way to connect your machines together using vnc or if XP and newer, with remote desktop.

Direct to the Hamachi download:
https://secure.logmein.com/products/hamachi/list.asp

or read up more about it:
https://secure.logmein.com/products/hamachi/vpn.asp

and

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hamachi

personally... I'd go the Hamachi route, then use VNC on top of it if you wanted to allow someone in the office to work with you at the same time, but if not, then I'd use Hamachi and Remote Desktop.

I've used VNC over Hamachi to help those family members of mine that, god help them, they're great people but just not great with computers.. and it was increadibly easy to walk them through the install and test of hamachi (sort of required), just do so yourself, and take notes if you need to..