1) The only option that I am aware of that will allow you to somewhat freeze the icons on a desktop is to right-click the desktop and select auto arange. In doing this, anytime an icon is moved, it will snap back into place. To keep them locked in place in Win9x cannot be done unless you can find a third party utility to do it. (I checked Download.com and didn't find any)
2)This can be done two different ways:
Open any folder and select "View" ===> "Folder Options" ===> "General" tab.
From here you can either select the "Webstyle" radio button (which will give a webpage look to desktop along with single click abilities)
OR
Select the "Custom" radio button adn then hit the "settings" button next to it. This will give you a window with several options, one of which is switching from double to single click.
3) The only other suggestions I have for desktop management is to a) fine tune the icon sizes and fonts by right clicking the desktop and selecting properties. This will bring up the display properties applet where you will find the settings for Icon, window and font sizes/colors. if you are concerned with the gentlemen accessing folders that may cause problems if he deletes something, then I sugest you select any folder you want hidden and right click ==> properties; from there check off the hidden attribute and press ok. This will keep the folder hidden from view. If you need to access the folders after this is done, just open any folder and select view ==> options ==> view tab and check off the "show all files " box.