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    I found a lot of great


    by zlitocook ·

    People responded to my post.
    The wife and I were talking about it and we thought why do IT people seem to think more of family and helping others?
    I say this because we have both worked in a lot of other jobs and have helped a lot of people.
    We have taken in six kids that were ether kicked out before they were ready or the parents did not want them any more. This is not an exaggeration, two kids were told to leave because the parents (I say that in the broadest terms) wanted to do things and have fun.
    One of the kids was showing defiance by dressing in a way that the parents disliked (he wore a toga or a dress as his dad called it) and they wanted nothing to do with him. They kicked him out and moved two day after. We helped them get up and running to live on their own.
    We hear about the poor kids who can not get into collage or the kids who do not have their own computers. But there more people/kids that are out there who just need a family. We are not wealthy or have a large home to take in the kids that are put out.
    But we are glad to help and do what we can.
    My son had moved in to a home that was like a commune of the sixties but with no facilities, no bathroom or shower. We had him move back home and he was glad he did.

    But most of the kids are great, and smart.
    We seem to forget about the homeless and people who need our help. With the war on what ever the politicians tell us and the high prices on gas/ what ever.
    There was a grass root group of people trying to help the forgotten people but it was lost with the current party in charge.
    I have talked with a lot of people in a lot of different jobs and the IT people seem to be the best for taking care of their kids.
    We need to help our self?s and our kids to keep our country great!
    What do you think? 7

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      IT per se doesn’t affect parenting

      by dmambo ·

      In reply to I found a lot of great

      I have seen kids from families who are dirt poor have trouble from day 1. In some cases, these parents just don’t seem to understand the commitment, EVERY SINGLE DAY, that’s needed to raise a kid.

      I have also seen kids from priviledged families have trouble from day 1. In some cases, these parents just don’t seem to understand the commitment, EVERY SINGLE DAY, that’s needed to raise a kid.

      My point is that it’s how parents approach their job, which IMHO, is to get a kid ready to be responsible and productive on his own by the time he’s an adult.

      I read the other thread, and I disagree that parents need to feel obligated to financially support their kids through their twenties and thirties, unless they’re planning to live and work long enough to do it forever. Obviously, in extenuating circumstances, people have no choice other than to help out their family. But for a situation where a kid has no motivation to fledge, then a parent is not doing his job.

      My sister had her grandkids for about 8 years because her daughter and son-in-law were not able to squeeze child-rearing into their busy (US Army) lives. I think that type of coddling harms 2 generations. I believe my sister should have said that the careers go on hold when the kids arrive. Her choice, I just didn’t agree with it.

      I’m a long way from being a perfect parent, but I try to keep my eye on the long-term goal. And to try to set a good example every day. I probably fail nearly as much as I succeed, but so far, so good. I’ll get back to you in about 10 more years and let you know how well I did.

      Well, you asked for opinions… 🙂

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