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To get the ball rolling, here is my story.
It was in the final year of high school ? the year we both turned 17.
I met Kathy during the summer holidays at the beginning of the year, at the local swimming baths. The accepted methods of courtship at the time were to throw non-stinging jellyfish at the girls and/or do a ?bomb? in the pool adjacent to where they were sunbathing and splash them with cold water. [I will not digress into a description of the sophisticated art of ?bombing.?]
Her parents, especially her mother, encouraged the relationship, which proceeded very amicably. We were both virgins and so my groping attempts were vigorously fought off until that magical day when she said: ?You can touch me anywhere you like.?
I had been raised in a very sheltered environment in which everybody was either a practising or nominal Christian and voted Conservative. I knew almost nothing about sex and one was not supposed to experiment before marriage.
Despite our natural compatibility, two issues arose which eventually led to the termination of the relationship. Sharing a common fear of sex, on our first attempt at intercourse Kathy complained that it hurt, and that was sufficient to deter us from further attempts.
And then there was the ideological conflict. Kathy?s parents were communists and atheists and had raised their four daughters to share these beliefs. I could not deal with the conflict with the ideologies into which I had been raised. However Kathy loved me so much that she offered to change her beliefs if I would continue with the relationship but, being extremely na?ve I said: ?No, it wouldn?t work,? and that was that.
Although I almost immediately regretted my stand, Kathy was not going to stick around for more rejection and further attempts by myself to revive the relationship were not successful.
She then attended the Eureka Youth League (the Communist Party?s equivalent of a church youth fellowship) and met a slightly older man who knew what to do in bed and shortly afterwards they got married and had four brilliant kids, with an unplanned fifth when Kathy was 45.
As I have remained in contact with her mother up until quite recently, there is a lot more that I could add but enough?s enough.