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Tips for moving on?

By cp7212 ·
Well, after several sessions of asking questions to the TR forum (thank you for all of your past answers, by the way), I am going to take some advice and get out of Dodge!

My manager doesn't respect me in the least. He tries not to speak to me if at all possible. He doesn't listen to any ideas. I had a solution to a problem and he preferred the company spending $5,000 for the solution, adverse to hearing my idea.

They take my partner away for some project that they don't let me know anything about and I have to support 300+ machines, solo.

So, enough whining, could you knowledgeable people lend me some of your experience? Could you please drop some tips on what to do about moving from a company I'm employed with now, to an out-of-state location? I'm shooting for Charlotte, NC and moving from PA.

I've been looking at some job sites, apartment sites, moving companies, storage, and the like. I revised my resume. Any tips? Thanks in advance for letting me benefit from your experience(s).

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It's tough out there

by DMambo In reply to Tips for moving on?

So, tip #1 is to find something else befroe you relocate. I'm ultra conservative in this regard, but that's my advice.

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It's not tough out there

by maxwell edison In reply to It's tough out there

I hate to so blatantly disagree, but I will.

YOU MAKE YOUR OWN REALITY! And this is especially true in a case like this.

If you think it's tough, it will be tough. If you think you WILL succeed, you will succeed.

DO NOT adopt the mind-set that things are tough, or else that will become your reality. You make your own reality by first defining your own mind-set.

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With all due respect

by JamesRL In reply to It's not tough out there

I disagree Max.

I was in that very position. I was laid off, but I was confident I was in good shape. I thought I would succeed, and I put alot of effort into getting a job before my severance ran out. I had outplacement services, a great network, a good resume, good skills. But at the time I was laid off, thousands of other hi tech people were also laid off in my area, and new hiring was not happening.

The reality is that its not all hard work and the right attitude. Your attitude can help you land a job once you find the right opportunity. But your attitude can't change the number of qualified job seekers out there or the number of positions available.

I know Max that you made your own job. And in no way do I diminsh that acheivement, nor do I deny that a positive mental attitude is important.

But reality says that the real challenge is to keep that positive mental attitude going while the rest of the environment is not so well.

I don't know the economic situation of the OP, nor the market in their area. It may be tough out there. The successful job seeker will acknowledge that its tough and not only try harder, but work smarter. That means distinguishing one's self from the rest of the pack, reaching farther into one's network and looking for unusual niches that others have not explored.

I do agree that if one thinks they will fail they will. I never gave up. I didn't really have that option. But one has to be realistic and take into account the local market and conditions. At some point livery stable owners and buggy whip makers had to realize that few of them would survive and that most of them would have to try a new trade.


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In 1987 I did that very thing

by maxwell edison In reply to With all due respect

In 1987, when the economy was considered terrible, I decided that I wanted to move to Burlington, Vermont, a move of over 1,000 miles for me at the time, where the economy was even more pitiful. I had only been there to visit for a day or two a few months prior, but never had lived there, or anywhere even close; I didn't know a soul who did live there, nor did I know anything about the dynamics of the business community.

"You're crazy", people told me.

I spent about 7 days in a hotel; my "mission" was to find a job and a place to live. And when I left Burlington a week later, it was knowing that I would be returning in just a few days to take one of three positions I was offered, and to move into the condo that I had rented on the shores of Lake Champlain (one of the lake's many coves, actually, in Shelburne).

No, I didn't have a lot of money, just enough to get by for a couple of weeks. And no, I had absolutely no contacts.

Having the right mental attitude and approach is not only an important thing, it's the only thing. But it's more than just believing it -- it's knowing it. And with it, failure never does have to be an option.

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Peoples Republic of Vermont

by Montgomery Gator In reply to In 1987 I did that very t ...

Max, how did you survive living among the socialists that elected Bernie Sanders to Congress in Vermont? :-)

I visited Burlington, VT in 1988. Nice city, beautiful area with the lake and mountains, cold in the winter (but I was living in Syracuse, NY at the time, so I was used to it), but so many people there are loonie lefties. The Ben and Jerry crowd who make good ice cream but bad politics. ;-)

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Bernie Sanders . . . .

by maxwell edison In reply to Peoples Republic of Vermo ...

....was the mayor of Burlington when I was there. He used to walk up and down Church Street Mall greeting all the "homeless" people who flocked to his city.

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I didn't mean to be such a downer

by DMambo In reply to It's not tough out there

Max is probably right. But I'll still say it's tough out there, so you need to be tough. That means a LOT of work up front. Just be sure your preparation is as close to perfect as can be. You know your circumstances. Remember, I'm looking at it from my perspective of 3 kids depending on me. They certainly would distract me from giving 100% effort into building a new life for me alone. If you're ready to make the leap, do it.

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Not a downer....

by cp7212 In reply to I didn't mean to be such ...

I didn't look at it that way at all. I already know that I really have no other option but to get out of this company. It is truly the worst place I've worked. It's not the whole company really, but the IS department. Since I'm going to move, it may as well be where I was going to go in the first place.

I've always been drawn to Charlotte. Don't know why, but I'm running with it. Like I told Max, I don't have kids, wife, or any other obligations to tie me to one spot.

I appreciate your feedback. I'm trying to find an easy medium between safe and wanton.

Thanks again.

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Check out Lowe's

by NotSoChiGuy In reply to Tips for moving on?

I worked with someone that ended up moving to Charlotte to work for Lowe's (corporate headquarters). Apparently, they were (this is 2 months ago) looking to really expand, and needed a lot of IT help. They even helped pay for relocation, which is practically unheard of anymore.

Other than that, if you know of anyone in the area already, network your @ss off. You never know when you'll meet someone that knows someone that is looking for someone.

Good luck!

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by cp7212 In reply to Check out Lowe's

Thanks for your tips. I will be checking Lowe's site and I'll upload a resume. They're all ready to go.

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