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By Shellbot ·
hi guys...
just wanted to say hi and let you know that life continues to be a *****.

i've been absent for a couple weeks..not been at work.

Kid decided to run away. She was gone for 2 days, she's back safe and sound, but its just been a nightmare. We have found out a whole load of other stuff about her..who she's been hanging with, what she's been up to ect.

Realised she been stealing from us..does anyone ever check all the change from the piggy bank that you've got stashed away..well..we didn't..and she managed to **** away almost 400 euros worth..

ugh..anyways, i've pretty much taken a months leave off work, so money is going to be a bit tight. the house was and still is partially in lockdown mode.

She's been to the Dr, and she starts regular counselling this week.

The boyfriend has been told not to come around..but **** anyways, eventually we have to let her out of the hosue..and as soon as we do..they gonna be on each other like dogs in heat.

We've decided to move, just need to get it all sorted, but will take about 8 weeks to get done.

I'm so outa my league, so is hubby for that matter. We went away out to the country for a week..it seemed to help a bit, but then she used my phone to call him behind my back, so back to square one..

i had 2 cigarettes..next month i would have been off them for 2 years..but hopefully i won't have any more.

hope your all doing OK.

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Hey Shell

by Tig2 In reply to to say a quick hello

I wish I knew the perfect thing to say to you or had the perfect solution. This is unquestionably a tough patch.

The couseling will help. Hopefully will begin to drill down to what has her so miserable. But she is goin gto have to work at it too. And that may be the rub.

Hold on dear. We are out here praying for you. I know that it will pass but right now, it is probably impossible to see that.

You will be in my thoughts. If there is any way we can help...

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Shell

by gadgetgirl In reply to to say a quick hello

anything I can do,let me know - I'll pm you my contact details, as I'm not at work at mo (car broke down....long story)

Not being funny, but keep mobiles in pockets, lock away ANY cash, and MAKE SURE you know where all valuable/saleable items are, lock away if necessary.

Try to keep her away from her "crowd" at all costs; don't give her the slightest opportunity to carry on the way she has been. Counselling? Is this the Dad and new wife issue again? Has he been kept in the loop on this - watch your back, and don't take the blame he's bound to try to push onto you.

New house: I've been in physical security before, and run my own small computer company, so if you need any cameras, alarms etc. for the house, I can get trade prices and probably parcel over to you.

If you need specific help on anything, let me know.

Best of luck, Shell. Keep your chin up.

GG

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Hang in there, Shell

by maecuff In reply to to say a quick hello

While I can't claim to know how you feel, I did have some pretty scary times with my son. He's now 19 and seems to be on a better track, but I'm still holding my breath. When he was 17, he was caught doing drugs (the white powdery kind tht you sniff) and smoked pot all the time. He's incredibly smart, but dropped out of school his Senior year. He now has his GED, he cut ties with all his friends and seems to be happier. Now..getting a job and enrolling in school would be great, however, I'm just thankful that I'm not worrying that he might not survive any given day.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just hang on, do what you have to do, and try to remember to smile every once in a while. Your daughter is at a difficult age, just do the best you can do and know that this will pass.

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Good luck, Shellbot

by DMambo In reply to to say a quick hello

How's your husband holding up thru all this? He's gotta be in a tough situation.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for the best.

Mambo

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Just keep your head above water

by jdclyde In reply to to say a quick hello

I am sure much of this DOES come directly from your EX's mind trips, lowering the Little ones feelings of selfworth.

Keep up the issolation, and keep her off the computer. IM and myspace would be a big way of them keeping things going. I would even load some monitoring software. I used Spector to find out about my wifes affair and plans, and then later to monitor my boys activity. The difference is, the EX didn't know about the software until after out divorce was finalize and I let her know just how much I knew how much she had been up to behind my back, while the boys know NOW that I can see everything they do on my computers, and to watch themselves.

If you can keep up the issolation, wormboy will look for an easier target and move on.

The very best of wishes, to your whole family. Keep in mind while this is hard on you, this will put a big strain on your husband too. Do not allow the crisis with the little one to ruin your marrage. Good luck dear.

jd

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Shell I will be praying for you ...

by faradhi In reply to to say a quick hello

and your daughter.


bryan

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Shell, I know

by Old Guy In reply to to say a quick hello

how hard this is because I have counseled with teens for a long time and I know how hard it is only through this not through personal experience. Keep her with the professional counseling for as long as she needs it (according to the counselor not according to her). Also, as much as you and your husband can stay directly involved with her counseling the better for all of you. It can work. I've seen many people come through this.

Stay with it and don't give up. Your daughter is worth the hard work and fight to win!

A lot of us will be with you on this and I do pray for all of you.

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Best of luck there Shell

by Too Old For IT In reply to to say a quick hello

... and maybe loser boyfriend can fall up a flight of stairs or two in the interim?

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Shell

by Jellimonsta In reply to to say a quick hello

Keep your eye on the prize. Just keep soldiering on, even if you are taking baby steps, you are taking steps. Good luck with everything, I will say a prayer for you!

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keep your chin up

by IT Girl In reply to to say a quick hello

i'm sorry you have all this going on with your daughter right now. maybe you can tell the dude hanging around you'll call police if you ever catch him near your house or her. hopefully he'll move on as well. if these problems are related to your ex, hard as it is suggest to him counselling for both of them alone as well as counselling for you and your daughter. not to mention the three of you. it could be her acting out for some attention from the both of you at the same time.

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