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That was Jack Nelson, former Los Angeles Times reporter, describing the challenge of being "objective" while reporting on a lynching. On the same panel, Chuck Concomi, former Washington Post reporter, said it a little better. I have to paraphrase, but he said that he believed it was possible to be fair, but not to be objective, when reporting the events of the Civil Rights Movement.

I think they're both wrong. Being objective does not require ignoring emotion, but analyzing it. When the verdict of your objective analysis of fact matches the verdict of your emotions, however strong, you are being objective and emotional simultaneously. When the verdict of your objective analysis of fact does not match the verdict of your emotions, however weak, you are experiencing what psychologists call "cognitive dissonance". The various types of insanity are cases of such extreme cognitive dissonance that life becomes overwhelming.

Who here believes that it is impossible to be objective while being emotional? Why?

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by jardinier

I wouldn't know. :)

But it is an interesting point that you raise.

So I will hypothesize. If you react emotionally when first confronted with a situation, it is unlikely that you will be able to view it objectively.

However if you approach a situation dispassionately, and upon analysis feel very strongly about some aspect of the situation, then your emotions will not have corrupted your initial objective evaluation of the situation.

Well if that makes any sense to you, no doubt you will let me know.

by absolutely

I'm sure you're right about the order of operations. But I do not agree with the implied assumption of the journalists on TV that a passionate response is not (sometimes) objectively appropriate. They were talking about the difficulty of being obejective when people were being lynched for existing while Black. There is no excuse for [b]not[/b] being passionate about that, and objectivity definitely makes no such requirement. The cold facts of racism (persecution based on group membership and irrelevant physical attributes instead of "the content of their character") mean that, objectively, it is [b]evil[/b], which can also be objectively defined as that which is inimical to peaceful coexistence with other rational humans in the real world.

by noyoki

I'm not sure that they are a fit example, all they need to do to be "objective" is to show both sides. Talk to both people... Not have a racist reporter interview *only* the "nice, hard-working young (white) man" that was stabbed by the (implied) "crazy, ghetto, layabout, old (black) man".

However, but speaking only to the victim and portraying the black person as "insane" and "bad", they may sway the potential jury...

So they do play an important role. Just that it's easier to be objective when all you do is just talk. They aren't the ones actually deciding if he gets the death penalty. Interviewing both (when and if possible) and telling both sides is being objective.

And it also saves you from falling into the trap of having to un-accuse someone when you find out it was really his wife that stabbed him and he was too ashamed to admit it!

[i]Note: Racism used ONLY to more easily illustrate my point on objectivity![/i]

by sleepin'dawg

dispassinate obsevation and a total divorce of one's emotions from the resulting outcome of these observations. Any intrusion of emotion, whether in the process of observation or the viewing of the results would automatically disqualify one as being objective. To be truly objective one must remove one's self or ego from any tendancy to lay any form of stress on the objective or external elements of cognition i.e. awareness of one's mind and/or thoughts. It must be completely external to one's thoughts and senses of morality. Objectively, this can be the only true objectivism or objectivity, when one's mind and sense of morality is completely divorced from the outcome of the thing being observed. I would suggest that this is nigh on to being impossible and would call for one to be a total nihilist.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by sleepin'dawg

You have a point but if you wear your hat no one will notice unless it's one like the silly assed ones that the Canadian Olympic team are wearing.( the red ones)Even then they'll probably think your only wearing one of the stupidest looking hats ever to be worn by anyonealive or dead.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by absolutely

If emotions are automatic responses to your experiences, and the nature of those automatic responses is dictated by the premises you hold, and those premises are determined prior to the experiences, objectively, then what is the source of conflict between emotion and objectivity?

There is no conflict among (nor within!) rational men.

by tony hopkinson

Experiences give rise to an emotional state.
But so do memories of the experience.
Equally when being swayed by strong emotion, you will associate past experiences with what's happening now even though the only connection between events is emotion.

The Mr Spock scenario, however would give rise to conclusions completely disconnected from human reality, so you would look irrational to everyone else.

Emotions do have their logic, anger for instance is a very rational response to certain situations, being objective simply means you've thought your way, through become angry and then acted accordingly. In other words your response is dictated by events not emotions.

So there's no need to divorce yourself from emotions to be objective, but as emotions is part of the situation you need to examine the reasons for it, if you leave them out objectivity is lost.

I've never understood this desire to divorce ourselves from emotion, not to react blindly yes, but emotion free is anti-survival and therefore irrational.

by Member 25348569

We've been here before. The result of "no conflict..." implies a starting point of some things being true - all of the necessary data, both immediate and peripheral is available and the "rational" beings are sufficiently intelligent to be capable of interpreting and analyzing that data to reach the correct conclusion.

Given a situation in the real world, two rational beings may reach different, conflicting conclusions quite easily. Other factors come into play, also, such as cultural values which define your ethical standpoint (I, for instance, don't give a sh*t about The Constitution!) and familial circumstances.

As for me, I have found over the years that when confronted with a situation - a complex problem or something as simple as a quiz show question - the first answer that hits my mind, the intuitive answer, is more likely to be correct than not.

Despite being (I think) a rational human being, I have come to the conclusion that the human mind is more complex than is allowed for in your flat statement and I, for one, will likely take my intuitive response to be the correct one and then think it through. Are my emotions involved in the generation of an intuitive answer? Well, I don't know.

Neil :D

by azul

Mrs. Rand was absolutely brilliant, besides being insane.

Her philosphy has but one flaw. It does not account for humans in the physical world.

When she could no longer distinguish between her litterature and the real world she became a victim of her philosphy.

Humans are emotional. We can not seperate ourselves from our emotions, we can only act in spite of them. Where most people loose their objectivity is when they are unable to distinguish between their emotions and reality or they fail to see beyond their emotions.

by jessie

There's all KINDS of internal conflicts... Objectively, I know my 5 year old is ready to start school, that it will be good for her physical, emotional, and educational development... my EMOTIONS however are telling me that my BABY is too young, too little, too stubborn, too needy, too much MY BABY to be going to kindergarten...

Objectively, a new job in another state that pays twice what I'm currently making, would be an excellent choice... but emotionally, I would feel terrible seperating myself and my children from family and friends.

Objectivity and emotionality are easily and completely seperated, and they do NOT always mesh with each other in each individual.

Oh, and cognitive dissonance refers to two or more beliefs held by a person which would seem to be mutually exclusive, like the pro-lifer who supports the death penalty. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

by darthstard

I can relate to this, it's the classic case of mind over matter, or of quelling emotion so as to focus the mind, and remove fear or overexcitement.

If you wanted to break a roof tile with your fist, you would empty your mind first of doubt, fear or excitement, it does'nt mean you are irrational, it means you are just more focused at that point in time.

An empty unfettered mind leaves the senses sharper and there fore more able to be objective or for that matter subjective. We all do this, to a greater or lesser degree, every time we mentally relax, or unintentionally relax, hence that sense of inhibition and openmindedness that follows. LOL not to be confused with Alcohol.

by tony hopkinson

If I want to break a roof tile I get really angry, then I don't care that I'm going to hurt my hand, and the endorphin/adrenalin rush ameliorates the subsequent pain.

At that point I'm very focused, the tile is going to die, it has as much chance of working as the kung fu master approach.

by darthstard

Anger is a perfectly natural emotion, but one to be tempered, anger can be turned into determination, and used as energy to ameliorate whatever problem you face. This will result in you having a far better day, and you will still have the use of your hand.

by Member 25348569

True objectivity would stop you attempting it at all! First cultivate callouses and strengthened tendons and muscles by judicious use of a training aid such as a makiwara. Then no roof tile will be safe but by that time you won't really want to break any.

Try it again, twenty years after you gave up the karate and you will break a finger. :(

by darthstard

Yes you can train yourself and your knuckles etc, to break various building products, you can also train yourself to use chi & ji energy and you will have minimal fuss.

Positive thinking, and a relaxed mind will reveal wonderous side effects to life, nature and synchronicity.

by absolutely

Your response is your problem. If you have a problem with my postulation, why don't you try making a rational, coherent query for clarification?

by sleepin'dawg

Your statement does not make one iota of sense to anyone,excepting perhaps, yourself. The moment emotion intrudes upon the thing being observed, then personal bias creeps in and any attempt at objectivity becomes contaminated by that bias. Is that sufficiently coherent enough for you. Here is another; objectivity and emotionalism are mutually exclusive to the reporting of fact; all fact and not just the ones opted for on the basis of bias, either pro or con. IMHO a quick check of definitions in a dictionary should clarify the meanings of emotionalism and objectivity for you. While you are at it check out objectivism.

Imagine if you will a set of vitual scales. One side labeled pro, the other con. A truly dispassionate observer, which is necessary in any exercise of objectivity, will assign the collected evidence to the appropriate sides of the scale. Whichever side contains the most salient information, regardless of any bias, will be the correct conclusion. The answer may not be the one sought, the answer may well be contrary to one's personal bias and desires but it will be the correct answer.

I know you are a reader of Rand. Do not confuse objectivism with objectivity. They are not always coincident. One tilts towards personal desires the other stands totally alone based in cold hard fact, with no regard whatsoever of popular or desired beliefs. To be able to observe that dispassionately is one of the hardest of tasks for a man to do but a necessary one if he is to seek the absolute truth. Emotion has no part in the process except to fortify the observer's previously held beliefs. Think in terms of science, you may be seeking a specific result but if experimentatiom indicates your desired result is unobtainable, will you continue to hold your erroneous belief or will you alter it in accordance with the true evidence of your experimentation.

Coherent enough???

[b]Dawg[/b]

by absolutely

I asked "If emotions are automatic responses to your experiences, and the nature of those automatic responses is dictated by the premises you hold, and those premises are determined prior to the experiences, objectively, then what is the source of conflict between emotion and objectivity?"

I'll restate my premise in a few statements: "Emotions are automatic responses, determined by the nature of the experiences and the premises held by the person experiencing them. Since my premises are valid, determined objectively, there is no conflict between my emotions and my valid premises."

The facts that emotions are not uniform among all people, but instead different people respond differently to the same experience, and therefore that emotions are responses determined by a person's premises, invalidates premises expressed by "emotion [b]intrudes[/b]" (emphasis mine) and "any attempt at objectivity becomes [b]contaminated[/b] (emphasis mine), and any other statement that non-contradictory identification (logic) is [b]necessarily[/b] at odds with emotion.

Adolf Hitler got emotional while making untrue statements about Jews, gypsies, and homosexuals. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. also got emotional while making true statements about the rights of humans. The presence or absence of emotion does not determine, nor even help to ascertain, what is fact and what is false.

by tony hopkinson

and it's much better I get my release on an inanimate object than some twit who breaks the camel's back.

Don't know if you saw it, but there's a place started up in spain where they give you a hammer and let you smash stuff to bits. They all came out very happy.

The reason for training to use the edge of your hand is so you can break more than one, but that's just being a big head.

by jardinier

I'm getting a little worried Neil. You and I are starting to agree occasionally.:)

At age 24, as part of my search for "truth," I started to deliberately develop my intuition.

It was a long process learning to distinguish between my intuition and emotions. For many years now it has been my primary guide in decision making.

Initial intuitive response sounds good to me.

by jardinier

Well I never thought I would live to see the day when someone at this website would acknowledge that journalists MAY have the capacity to be objective.

When gathering "facts" for a story, the reporter is dependent upon what "facts" are available.

Keeping always in mind the pressure of the deadline -- to avoid being scooped by other members of the media -- it is rarely possible to obtain an equal balance of "facts" from both sides.

Incidentally in my early years as a journalist, in the area of general reporting -- which would include the example given as the topic of this discussion -- the reporter was NOT permitted to include any personal opinions in the story. Any opinions had to attributed to a source, for example: "Mr X said such-and-such."

As in the case of personally observable "facts," it was equally difficult to obtain a balance of quotable statements from persons of both sides.

by absolutely

basically holds for your "intuition", I suppose. This discussion between you & jard appears headed for some subtlety beyond my interest level, but I will say that if your most strongly held premises are based on rational judgements, your first response to most situiations will be likely on target, and close enough for daily life.

Do you give a snit about the MC?

by jardinier

are entirely different animals.

Quite possibly Neil's experience of intuition is quite different to my own.

The term "gut feeling" which you encounter so often, would be intuition by my understanding of the term. It is quite normal for intuition (or gut feeling) to be quite contrary to rational thought or logic. It is not in any way related to emotion.

Whereas emotions can override and distort rational thought, intuition is not dependent upon either.

I cannot elaborate further, because that would lead on to a discussion about metaphysics.

by Member 25348569

Intuition - an effortless, immediate, unreasoned sense of truth ? does sometimes seem to work for me. This is despite the fact that I distrust people who are labeled - worse, label themselves - "Intuitives". Because I tend to take heed of my intuition but I?m still a rational person (I hope), I?ve tried to keep up with how cognitive science deals with it and whether or not there?s a rational basis for being emotional.

Rational thought isn?t everything, you know. It does beat the hell out of emotive decision making but there?s a lot more going on in the human brain than simple thinking ? and I don?t mean metaphysics! There are ongoing studies in the brain?s capability of automatic processing, subliminal priming, implicit memory, heuristic methods and so on. Even for a rational sort like you, thinking, memory and attitude operate on multiple levels of which the obvious two are the conscious and the unconscious. We know more than we know we know!

Check out your daily activities where your consciousness (everyone?s, but yours possibly more so) is biased to think that its own deliberate choices rules your life. As I?m typing this paragraph, I have idea at all where the instructions to move my fingers "just so" are coming from! If someone speaks to me while I?m doing it, the mental servants that are running my fingers will finish the sentence while I start up a conversation.

Studies made on students? responses to subliminal images have suggested that [b]everything[/b] is evaluated as good or bad within a quarter of a second. This seems to be hard-wired into our brains. You meet a stranger in the forest. Friend or foe? Reading a person quickly and accurately was definitely a survival characteristic. Further back, predator or prey? Better decide quickly and correctly! Some neural pathways run from the eye to the brain's more primitive control centers and completely bypass the cerebral cortex so we can react, processing information in milliseconds. The thinking brain asserts itself only after that initial response. Human intelligence is more than logic, and comprehension is more than consciousness.

Neil

MC? What's MC? I reserve the right to give or not give a snit (whatever [b]that[/b] is. :D

by jardinier

Julian's own, original theory of Free Will. (please bear with the Biblical references which are not relevant to my theory. I just happened to compose this in a "Christian" framework.)

By JULIAN HANCOCK

The Christians have it all worked out: God created a perfect world, and perfect "In the image of God" humans, but he gave us free will and we stuffed it all up. Well that conveniently answers everything, doesn't it. We can't blame God for pain, tragedy, war, environmental destruction and so on. He gave us a perfect world, and we blew it.

Well I have given the matter much thought and have concluded that most of our "free will" actions are nothing more than a matter of taking the path of least resistance given all the circumstances involved. When we are hungry, we eat; when we are thirsty, we drink; when we are tired, we rest; when our bladder is full, we relieve ourselves. Is there actually any free will involved in these basic examples of common human day-to-day experience? We don't think, we don't reason, we don't make a calculated decision; we just respond naturally to our body's demands.

We can apply this analogy to far more complex situations: a married couple find that they can no longer stand each other's company. So do they just walk away and start life anew? No, because financial considerations and responsibilities to offspring make up a much more complex equation. Eventually the couple will choose the course of action that causes the least stress to all involved, or in other words, the path of least resistance.

Anyone who takes the time to analyse the many "free will" decisions which they may make in a single day will soon see that, given all the circumstances involved, they are merely taking the path of least resistance.

However from time to time, and possibly even several times a day, we are faced with a choice of actions that are all of equal strength: there is no path of least resistance; a decision has to be made but it is impossible to choose between several equally compelling options.

And this, I believe, is where true free will comes into play: without knowing why, we randomly choose one of the competing options. I challenge anyone to present to me a scenario in which a conscious and deliberate choice can be made between multiple courses of action which are equally compelling. Is it a free will decision not to murder someone who has caused us intolerable stress? Probably not, because we weigh the alternatives of eliminating the source of our pain, with the probably consequence of spending many years in jail, as well as considering our conscience and deeply embedded social mores.

In every minute action we take each day our "choice" is predominantly determined by an amalgamation of our genes, upbringing, life experience, belief system, laws and so forth. I don't begin to understand the process that causes us to make a random choice when faced with no obvious preferred choice. But it is ONLY THIS PHENOMENON WHICH I WILL DIGNIFY WITH THE TITLE OF FREE WILL.

And now I would like to skip back to Genesis and try and make some sense out of the "free will" decision which is allegedly responsible for all the mayhem that has occurred from the inception of the human race.

Christians will no doubt be shocked and mortified by my declaration that the first great "leap of faith" made in the history of Christianity was the decision by Eve, and subsequently Adam, to risk death in order to acquire wisdom. " ... you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die."

Well we know that was a lie, don't we, or you wouldn't be reading this now. And if God was referring to a spiritual death as distinct from a physical death, then he didn't bother to clarify the issue. So when the serpent said: "You will not surely die ... when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil," Eve and Adam were faced with a decision which quite possibly meets my criteria for a free-will choice, as they had no foreknowledge on which to judge whether God or the serpent was telling the truth.

It is also an excellent example of that most admirable of human qualities: the willingness to risk death in the quest for knowledge.

But I reject the simplistic interpretation of this incident by the Christian Church. Obviously they would not have wilfully rebelled against God if they believed that by "death" he meant annihilation.

by absolutely

In cases where a defendant is intimidated, objectivity may require more information than he volunteers. Emotions may [b]help[/b] honest people be objective in that case, but also motivate dishonest people to hide the facts that aren't forthcoming. Here is the point I've been trying to make: objectivity doesn't mean telling both sides of the story as if either one may be right. Objectivity means digging until you believe you know enough to decide whose side of the story is accurate, then presenting all the facts you used to make that determination. Being fair means getting to the truth, not reporting "neutrally" as if no such thing as objective truth exists. And when reporting on something that is totally unfair, I think that getting emotional is [b]perfectly rational![/b] I hope it's clear that I was trying to say that those reporters who try to be detached were being too hard on themselves: being fair doesn't require that the guilty be treated with neutrality. It's perfectly acceptable, to me, to condemn guilt, just be sure it's really guilt.

by jardinier

to me. But as the only member of this website to acknowledge experience as a working member of the media, I have been the scapegoat for everyone's bitches about the media in general.

Of course bias is in the mind of the beholder, so that in the example you are using, if the reporter concluded that one party was guilty, he/she would still be susceptible to accusations of bias.

by absolutely

Being totally guiltless does not cure a person of that susceptibility. Tribal mentalities that accuse without reason rely on unrealistic expectations, such as the one I'm trying to debunk here, that honest reporting of facts requires absence of emotion. Objectivity means reporting without distorting to support one's emotions, but not repressing, denying or hiding one's emotions. Especially in the case described on C-SPAN in which an acquitted defendant exchanged winks with a corrupt racist sheriff, it would be dishonest to [b]not[/b] report the courtroom observations that strongly imply that the defendant [b]was[/b] guilty of the accused lynching. The challenge is to find the facts that support our emotional and intuitive judgements, then objectively analyze it all before acting decisively on all the evidence.

by absolutely

Those were my heroes before I was introduced to Howard Roark and John Galt. I still enjoy Data's benign observations about common philosophical contradictions, but Vulcans have it all wrong.

by master3bs

Everybody has preconceived ideas. Now it is possible, though sometimes difficult, to realize what preconceived notions you have and think beyond them. That is thinking objectively.

This has largely been talking about journalism. It is possible to write objectively without thinking objectively. Again, this can be difficult, and it involves presenting the facts that are available.

I am a pastor. I teach the Bible. I once did a series of lessons for a youth group on the End Times. Many of you know that there is a wide range of interpretations on the issues involving the End Times.

Rather than show my interpretations (which I believe are correct) I presented each of the najor belief systems including my own. I showed the strong points and the weak points of each.

It was interesting that when polled, 90% of them said they believed the other major point of view, the one that I did not share. If nothing else, it appears I managed to teach objectively. :)

by absolutely

But in the previous paragraph, you said you "showed the strong points and the weak points of each." Which is it?

"Rather than show my interpretations (which I believe are correct) I presented each of the najor belief systems including my own. I showed the strong points and the weak points of each.

It was interesting that when polled, 90% of them said they believed the other major point of view, [b]the one that I did not share.[/b]"

(emphasis mine)

by jardinier

So you are a pastor -- presumably of the evangelical variety.

Which would explain why you disagreed with opinions posted in my personal blog, but which DID NOT JUSTIFY you posting deliberately nasty, sarcastic remarks.

May the End Times come quickly, so that decent people will be rid of you and your ilk forever.

by Member 25348569

What are "End Times"?

More to the point, do I really want or need to know? I leave that up to you, Jules.

Actually, do we have another member of the group that's always telling us how nice they are being less than nice to you, Jules? My religion allows - even encourages - me to be a ratbag. They are explicitly told not to be.

And Jesus said, "They that are sarky or otherwise take the piss shall burn in the fires of hell" - Derek, 4:2.

by sleepin'dawg

Is this some sort of down under inside joke or is it a book with particular meaning. Answer quickly and clearly or Neil will place the curse of The Blessed St. Liebowitz upon you, seeing as how he is Lord High Potentate of the Order of The Sons and Daughters of I Will Arise.

Damn, it's suddenly getting hot in here. Not me Neil, on them, I tell you, on them. :^O

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by absolutely

That is the point I'm making, as well as that rational people's emotions do not conflict with their rational evaluations, but match them, because the premises that determine their emotional responses are formed objectively & rationally.

by sleepin'dawg

Misbehaving children are a case in point. I think everyone, at one time or another, has seen or heard a parent strike or lash out at a recalcitrant or misbehaving child. As any parent will testify, children can drive adults to a point of total exasperation. The resulting emotional outburst is completely contrary to objective and rational thought and could result in serious injury to the child, although in the short term, it may achieve the supposedly desired result, that is if the desired result is the instilling a fear of adults within the child.

Many times the behavior of my own children brought me close to that point and the moment I felt my feelings of anger becoming aroused, I would mentally take a step back. If you need to ask why, then I would suggest you have serious anger and control issues. In my case, I objectively took stock of the situation, recognized the potential physical and psychological harm I was capable of inflicting and forced myself to chill out. By quelling my emotions rather than acting upon them, I was able to find a more appropriate way of enacting discipline upon the child. For ages now, I have contended that any act done out of emotion, is invariably wrong. Dispassionate objectivity will usually result in finding more appropriate choices of response. If you are childless, next time you are in a mall, watch how different parents deal with their misbehaving brats and all children will be brats at one time or other, then tell me that the ones who give physical vent to their emotions are handling the situation properly and/or correctly. It doesn't need to be a blow per se but some form of extreme physicality or verbal abuse that instills fear in the child. Tell me then just how giving full rein to one's emotions is of any benefit to anyone, in such a situation and this is only one example. If the objective is to instill fear, then by all means, be emotional but when later on you are confronted with rebellion or disrespect, you will know where to look for the causes.

I always regard emotional people with caution and am always suspicious of what motivates them. I never fully trust them. I want people who are capable of objective choices and not emotional ones, although I do recognize the emotions of the masses and will endeavour to harness them in achieving my desired results. If that makes me a cold, manipulative, conscienceless SOB, then so be it. It's how I've got to where I am today and if you think I'm unique; take a look at the Buffets, Dells, Gates and Trumps of this world. Manipulative, objective, conscienceless SOBs, every one of them. You don't get there from here without being one, to some degree or other.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by absolutely

But I bet you feel, as well as think, that harming your children is wrong. Some restraint is absolutely necessary to function at all, and more of it makes more success possible, as you suggest with your list of top businessmen. The point I was trying to make is that logic isn't [b]necessarily[/b] contrary to every emotion. I wasn't clear.

by sleepin'dawg

the harming or abuse of any child either physically or psychologically is most definitely wrong and in many areas, is now considered to be criminal. However, the latter wasn't in force when my children were young. Objectively speaking the prevailing ideology of the time was,"Spare the rod and spoil the child." Objectively thinking, I somehow knew this to be wrong and as a consequence based on [b]my own thinking and thoughts[/b] sought a different more satisfactory solution to the problems of those instances.

Despite the conventional "wisdom" of the times I [b]knew[/b] that there had to be a better solution to my problem, than beating the hell out of a child in front of total strangers. I had absolutely no experience in child rearing and as any parent will atest, the little buggers don't come with an instruction book on their proper care and feeding. So how would you account for my decision not to lash out or physically discipline the child??? There wasn't time to consult any documentation and while never having been corporally disciplined by my parents, I had witnessed many of my peers so punished. In the short term the results always seemed to provide the desired result, for the parent, that is. The result was invariably a tearful but obeying child.

Posing the situation upon my background of contact sports and military service, the natural thing would have been for me to lash out in some form or fashion. But no, I supressed my emotions and instincts and objectively sought another course, one that would be better for all concerned. I do not trust emotions, either in myself or others. Never have, never will. Invariably decisions reached in a state of heightened emotion have proved to be the wrong decision, not only for myself but I've seen that for others as well. The only thing I had going for me was the leadership training I received as an officer candidate in which we were taught to think about all the consequences of our acts and that thought process, had damn well better be quick and affirmative, not only for myself but for all concerned. If I had permitted my emotions to come into play, what damage, either physical or psychological, would I have wrought on my children and on my relationship with them. What experience I had should have indicated that I give in to my primary instinct of an emotional response but dispassionate objectivity and reason led me to think that there had to be a better solution and furthermore, it turned out there was.

The solution was reason, pure and simple and to this day my peers keep telling me how lucky I was that my kids never caused me the anguish and problems their's did.

The other thing to note, after my divorce, my ex-wife would resort to physical punishment as she had while we were married and today even though my ex lives within twenty miles of my kids, they choose to spend their holidays with me rather than her although both of them claim I was the much stricter parent. My kids never had any doubts about where their limits were with me. I have to remind my kids to call their mother and yet I, who live over three hundred miles from them, hear from them once or twice a week. I once asked my kids if they had ever been physically afraid of me and while they said no, they said they were afraid of what might happen if ever I lost it. They both told me that while I hardly ever raised my voice to them, they were afraid of what would happen if I did but while they admitted that, they also said it gave them a sense of protection and total security. To this day, I still can't make heads or tails of that but I do know I am the parent who is called on when they're in trouble because they know dad will sit down and talk to them in finding a solution. That is what comes of being able to control your emotions. My kids trust me and my reactions, they don't trust their mother's and as a consequence they choose to bypass or ignore her. Not bad for a guy who got divorced when his oldest was four and the youngest was one. They only got to see me on alternating holidays and for two months summer vacations. I would have thought my youngest one would have been closer to his mother but that's not how it's worked out.

Don't get any ideas that I was a perfect parent. I was just a parent and far from perfection. I only know I tried my best. So far, and they're in their thirties now, my best such as it was, seems to have been good enough, I guess, at least I hope so.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by absolutely

I think that actively analyzing one's environment & self is more important than resisting emotions. When I'm already thinking proactively, I have less trouble reacting blindly on emotion. So, I still say there is no conflict within (actively) rational men.

by sleepin'dawg

I don't care whether a person is actively(?) or inactively(?) rational, decisions arrived at based in emotion are invariably wrong or at best something that should be maybe Plan C if that. They seldom, if ever are of Plan B calibre.

When someone approaches me with a proposal that in my estimation, they are being overly enthusiastic about, I take that as a signal to be especially wary. I do that even when it is myself being the enthusiastic one. It is too easy to react out of gut instincts at the drop of a hat. If it is a good idea, it will bear examination and often while it is not really wrong there may be other better choices or decisions.

Now I don't mean to be insulting here but if I'm not mistaken you are around 30 years old and you are a bit of an impulse buyer. Trust me I know what that is like because I am still that way myself. As a consequence, when I am at home I only carry one debit card with me; I keep all my credit cards at home in a bowl of water frozen in my refrigerator freezer. There is too great a tendancy for me to see something I like and buy it on the spot. Hell, I've even bought cars I had a sudden urge for, on one of my credit cards. Imagine how I felt when a colleague showed up with the same car but he had paid a couple of thosand less than I had paid. Sure I had the satisfaction of being the first one in the parking lot with that particular type of vehicle of that year but the thrill of being the first quickly wore off when I found out that if I had been more in control of my emotions I could have saved myself a couple of thousand. For what it's worth, the car was a 'Vette and I love hot performing cars, I was able to rationalize my purchase all to hell and back and it was actively rationalized at that. It was in the colour I preferred, it was optioned exactly the way I would want and a test drive showed me it handled better than even I had expected. Add to that the fact that I had heard there was a waiting list for it and it was no contest. The salesman knew I was sold the moment I stepped in the door. Now I didn't walk in carrying cash or anything but I did have a platinum Amex card in my pocket and this was back in the days when a platinum card really meant something, in fact the salesman claimed he had never seen one up close before and I had only had mine for about two or three months at that point. My initial intention was to use the card to only put down a deposit but in those days a platinum card came with all sorts of bells and whistles and one of them was an extremely high limit. The salesman suggested that the price might be within my limit and that if it was and I could wait an hour, I could drive the car home. An hour and a half later I finished transferring all my possessions from my old Vette into my new one and was on my way home.

The next day was exciting all my coworkers were outside looking over my car, including several bosses. I felt ten feet tall and felt that way until after one week to the day a coworker drove his new Vette into the parking lot. Hey that was nice. Another owner to compare stories with but I was still the first one on the lot, right??? Oh sure the colour of his was different than mine, I even liked it but wouldn't own a bright red sports car because they attracted too much attention from the cops. His was bright shiny red, mine was bright shiny black and I had been first but how long did the bloom on that rose last when he told me what he had paid for his, an amount precisely $1987 dollars less than I had paid for mine. Thankfully I hadn't bragged about what I had paid for mine or that I had used a credit card to purchase it but that price difference niggled away at me for two years before I finally traded it in.

You see,if I had kept a rein on my emotions I could have saved myself over $2000 bucks because the prices I am talking about did not include the sales tax, his being taxed on the lower amount. You better believe I never made that mistake again. Oh, I've bought other cars on plastic but after that experience I had to go home to fetch my card and on the way home I would check out other dealers for the best price.

Ever buy something that you thought looked great only to have someone in a lower salary bracket show up with almost the exact same thing. Sort of sucks the air right out of your pride of ownership, doesn't it but after it's happened a few times experience will have taught you, take a step back, shop around, before you commit yourself to anything. Unless you are talking something like a unique piece of art there is damn little that you can purchase that is really need that very instant, unless you ripped the ass out of your pants and you have a key presentation to an important client within an hour. In those circumstances you'd be forgiven for making a rush decision. In my case, it was a pair of shoes Somehow I had rushed out in the morning and managed to have two different shoes on my feet. I walked into the store, found the first pair of shoes that were suitable quickly checked that there was nothing else that might have been more reasonable tryed them on, they fitted and so keeping them on made my presentation with twenty minutes to spare. My Christmas bonus more than made up for the cost of the shoes. You say emotions are based on past experiences well my past experiences have taught me to beware my emotions not only on the personal level but on the business level as well.

You have heard the hoary old story about the difference between men and women??? A woman will spend a dollar to buy a two dollar item she doesn't need because it's a bargain. A man will spend two dollars for a one dollar item he does need and especially if he needs it quickly. The question is, not whether you need the item or not but just how quickly do you need it, that you can't wait half an hour to check around for a better price. If you're not careful, your emotions will bite your ass nearly every time.

Remember when cell phones first became available. I refused to carry one, even when the company would have paid for it, because the damn things were too big and clumsy and I laughed at the guys who had jumped on the cell phone band wagon and were stuck with those monsters because they were tied up by a contract. I didn't start carrying a cell until the digital models came out. By that time the size was down where it could fit in a shirt pocket, pay phones were getting scarce and the prices were way down. I still have friends who have those big monsters; they make dandy paper weights. Even though I carry one now, half the time it is shut off. I turn it on when I am expecting a call or want to check for messages. The phone is for [b]my[/b] convenience not for everyone who thinks it might be nice to give me a call. I'm one of those people who won't climb out of the shower to answer the doorbell never mind my phone. I consider the phone an invasion of my privacy and to date have yet to encounter a situation where the people calling can't wait until I deem it convenient to take their call. If it is really important they'll keep calling but if it's just to chat, then it can wait. People have complained about this habit of mine but on questioning the calls have never been so urgent that they can't wait until I check my messages on the hour, every hour as routinely as I do in taking a crap or a leak. See ringing phones do not trigger emotional responses in me.

A colleague has a heart attack and everyone runs to him and starts loosening his collar and whatnot. Not me. I'm the guy who instantly gets on the horn and calls 911, then I'll go over and check on him. My 911 call is going to do more for him by summoning competent help than joining the well meaning group clustering around him and blocking the air. When I get there I shoo people away and then administer CPR which I've been trained to give. That is just another one of the reasons I have for keeping my head and controlling my emotions. I was once questioned on why I didn't rush to give CPR to someone and as I told the person, I'm good but trained EMTs are way better. The few seconds taken for the 911 call were not going to make any difference and if you don't believe that ask your doctor or even better take a course in CPR.

You say your emotions are learned or derived from experience. Well take a look at what experience has taught me. Gee I never thought I was that emotional before, neither advisedly nor inadvisedly. I guess I'm just hopelessly and incurably, rational. :^O

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by Member 25348569

did I?

I posted a short blurb on cognitive science and intuition. What did I do to get slapped around the ear with a treatise on "free will"?

Stop it! You know it makes my head ache. :p

by absolutely

You claim to have been "an Ayn Rand-ian knight" but offer only [b]second-hand[/b] arguments against Objectivism. Hilarious!

by azul

If regurgitating the deeply flawed philosphy of a lunatic who failed to live according to her own philosphy makes you an intellectual, than truly, I am no match for you.

When you move out of your mommys house, your philosphy will change and it will be painful.
Good luck.

by absolutely

How is it "deeply flawed"? Can you substantiate the pejorative "lunatic" with something more intelligent than vague insults? I expect that if you [b]could[/b], you [b]would[/b] offer an intelligent argument instead of this grade-school trash-talk: "When you move out of your mommys house, your philosphy will change and it will be painful." Would you like to have a mature discussion, or do you prefer to keep acting like a juvenile?

by sleepin'dawg

or you have no idea of what you are talking about and have never had the courage to apply the philosophy fully.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by absolutely

"When she could no longer distinguish between her litterature and the real world she became a victim of her philosphy."

Is it true you once admired Objectivism, and now do not? What changed? Why did you admire it? Why do you not now?

by Member 25348569

was unearthed in Hackney Marshes, Essex, being found buried in the boot of a Cortina XR3i, and verified as a true account of the life of Christ by the Archbishop of Lakeside, Thurrock.

Glossary: http://tinyurl.com/tbi7

(Sorry, very "English" post)

by jellimonsta

I don't think I have seen that one. I have a strong feeling however that there may be some very meaty subject matter in that book.

Let me know if you come across it! :D

by noyoki

> "The few seconds taken for the 911 call were not going to make any difference and if you don't believe that ask your doctor or even better take a course in CPR."

This may or may not be entirely true. I've been CPR/First Aid certified since before I was 12. (I know, you need to be 14 to actually take the test, my dad is an EMT and I found his training books before I had even started pre-k. The company let me take the course & test years before I was legally allowed to... Though I didn't walk out with a card... just a photoshopped certificate. Lol.

Got a 99% on that stupid thing. Rankles me even now. The one question I missed, was something about intubation and fluid in the stomach, which wasn't actually covered in the course... Grr.)

When coming upon a scene, after surveying, the old school said to give 1 minute of CPR/Rescue Breathing, THEN go call 911.

The point of this was, that you didn't know how long the person had been laying there without Oxygen/heartbeat. They of course have changed this to come upon the scene, survey, call 911, then give CPR/etc. But they keep flip-flopping it 100-ways to Sunday, and as such, I can never remember which a person is actually *supposed* do at any given moment. :D

Calling first makes alot more sense obviously if you were already at the scene and the co-worker collapsed... You know it's been less than the golden 4-minutes. But for coming upon a scene, and not knowing how long he/she has been unresponsive, is alittle different. After 4 minutes, 10 seconds can mean all the difference in terms of brain damage.

by absolutely

you can look back at your emotional response and judge how well it matched your objective evaluation. Now, I'll read that very long post of yours.

by sleepin'dawg

but the 4 minutes bit isn't engraved in stone. In actuality brain function will not commence deterioratin until after 8-10 minutes. A lot depends on the overall state of health of the individual to begin with. After 10 minutes you are just going through the motions because if you are not seeing any response such as some sign of autonomous breathing,even the slightest, then the idividual is quite possibly going to be beyond salvage. Our office now has one of those portable stimulators like many of the airlines have and those are supposed to work wonders. We'll have to see though because no one has seen fit to have an infarct recently. If you have no idea of how long the individual has been down you have to start immediately but as I didn't state clearly enough, the guy went down right outside my office door.

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by jardinier

I have mentioned elsewhere that I have been participating in discussions at two American Christian websites -- you could call the exercise "intellectual flagellation."

The "End Times" refers to Armageddon and the Second Coming of Christ. All the GOOD Christians will be lifted up to heaven in an event referred to as the "rapture," to spend eternity with the three persons of the Trinity -- God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit. [These are three distinct persons who are simultaneously only one person.] while everyone else -- including all Christians who belong to an established denomination -- will then be sent to suffer hellfire for all eternity.

The "ilk" that I refer to is the so-called "Bible based" Christians, who believe that only they will be saved from hell.

The vast majority of these persons insist that established denominations are man-made and do not represent the "true" gospel, so that members of the denominations will go to hell along with all the unbelievers, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, and especially ATHEISTS (YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED !!).

Especially displeasing to God at this present time are Roman Catholics (who are not Christians at all) and Muslims. As The Roman Catholic Church accounts for half the total number of Christians in the world, even if the people who belong to other established denominations somehow manage to sneak in, hell will still be very crowded.

by jellimonsta

Jules, I think those 'Bible believing' church members who state other denominations are going to hell, are uttering complete poppycock! (Now poppycock always makes me laugh being as it literally means 'soft dung'). :)

Anyway, I attend an American Bible church, and was at one point attending both this church, and a Roman Catholic church, guess I was flirting with disaster huh?!.

Jesus said "I am the way, the truth, and the life, no one comes to the father; except through me". He did not say, 'No one comes to the father except those that believe the bible true'. Nor did he state that those who believe religion are doomed to hell (even though he publicly criticized the Pharisees).

While I do not believe in the legalistic nature of man imposed religions, I do not negate anyone the right to worship any way they see fit. If God, or Jesus don't have a problem with it; I certainly don't! :)

by jardinier

I started a discussion with this title, suggesting that the Bible should be given equal status with the three persons of the Trinity, because most of these BB Christians are much more interested in fossicking through the Bible to look for THE correct interpretation of various verses, than in actually revering the Trinity.

I made a partial breakthrough when, after much toing and froing, one member accepted my statement that the Bible "contains the words of God" as a valid alternative to "The Bible IS the Word of God."

by jellimonsta

Dawg, 'End Times' is, as Jules stated, Armageddon as perceived through reading the book of Revelations.

by sleepin'dawg

how very, very, silly of me to have missed that. To think that this paticular book of the bible, which has taken on such important ramifications to all the supposedly true believers, should have been so relevantly obvious to me, that it is a bit embarassing to have overlooked it . But then I suppose it only to be natural since of all the books in the bible, I perceive this one, specifically, to be such a crock. I sincerely apologize for my inability to conceive of anyone still taking it seriously. Again I apologize. Now where did I leave my horse??? You know the one I rode in on??? The pale one???

[b]Dawg[/b] ]:)

by noyoki

> "the guy went down right outside my office door."

The nerve! :p

I think they call it the golden 4 minute rule to allow for error, or I might be mis-remembering... Upon googling I *did* find this though:
( http://www.rantorama.com/nurs20.html )
[b]Golden Four Minutes -[/b]
The critical period prior to shift change when calls are most likely to come in.

[b]Gleek -[/b]
Any embarrassing siren noise, produced either unintentionally by the siren operator or intentionally by a "gleeky" partner.

[b]Optic Analitis -[/b]
When your optic nerve is connected to your anus causing your outlook on life to look like shit!!

by absolutely

"Cognitive dissonance is the perception of incompatibility between two cognitions, which for the purpose of cognitive dissonance theory can be defined as any element of knowledge, attitude, [b]emotion[/b], belief or value, as well as a goal, plan, or an interest. In brief, the theory of cognitive dissonance holds that contradicting cognitions serve as a driving force that compels the human mind to acquire or invent new thoughts or beliefs, or to modify existing beliefs, so as to minimize the amount of dissonance (conflict) between cognitions."

by absolutely

For starting this off-topic, religious gossip on my philosophical thread. Where is the complaints department? I want these posts removed!

:D

by tony hopkinson

Though I confess that idea of a priest teaching kids fills me with major misgivings.

Why sir ?
Because GOD made it that way.
Oh right, sorted then

by absolutely

Sleepin'Dawg: "You see,if I had kept a rein on my emotions..."

Absolutely: In order to do that, it's my experience that "actively analyzing one's environment & self" it the Absolutely Necessary [b]precondition[/b]. I am just a more pro-active type of personality.

Sleepin'Dawg: "You say your emotions are learned or derived from experience. Well take a look at what experience has taught me."

Absolutely: Not quite, pal. You take a look at your experience and what it has taught you all you want. I'll take a look at my own, and judge yours for what it's worth -- to me.

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