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A conflict of interest: a friend or a manager

By VNCoder ·
Hello all,

I have a staff member who has been working for me for the last two years. He is also a good friend of mine as well.

Base on his performance and experience, I have paid him as much as I think is appropriate. However, he still believes the company is not paying him enough. I have conveyed my thought to him already however he has not changed his mind. He is also not happy with the culture and the operating procedures/processes. Being his first job, he wants to venture out to get the experience.

He is using "personal emergency" as an excuse to be missing from work for 2-3 hours for interview. Despite that he still made up the time but that put a negative perception of him by the team.

There are two situations that I could do:
1. Leave him be & not tell the CEO, with the acceptance of when the staff will leave. The staff can stay here until he can get the next job. I would be wasting my time to train him any futher.

2. Tell the CEO of the situation so I can recruit someone and get that person trained up to replace the staff. If the CEO knows then the staff will get sacked. However, I have more stable team.

Anyone has a opinion on this? Which one I should do?

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I would let him know

by zlitocook In reply to A conflict of interest: a ...

That you are looking for a replacement. Let him know that in leaving for another job that he will need to train his replacement.
As for Telling the CEO of the situation be careful that you do not let him you knew before hand that he was looking. It sounds like your staff knew about this too. Have you shown your friend the wages for the type of work he is doing? And for a first job is the wage right?
Have you given or is there someone who gives performance reviews?
Things like this are good reasions not to hire friends. If you hire a friend you feel a responsibility to help them make it, even if they are bad at the job.
If he feels he can get a better paying job at a better company, tell him that?s great and good luck. If he has a great offer he will leave but if he is trying to get more money, you will see it right away.

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I have....

by VNCoder In reply to I would let him know

I have told him my conflict of interest and that I would not tell the CEO that I need a replacement until my friend got the next job. His experience is in line with the current market salary (actually, slightly more than the average) would be for his experience, skill and responsbilitites. However, he believes he should getting more - at least 20K more. I said Goodluck to him already....
However, this is going on too long (almost 2 months now). I don't want to be left in limbo - wether to get the replacement in or keep on training my friend. I believe I need to give him the ultimatum - leave within certain period of time (2 months) or stay for at least certain period of time (2years+).
Is this a good tactic to follow through?

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Sorry but I

by zlitocook In reply to I have....

Would give him a time frame and let him know that his looking for a job has affected your team. If need be pull him aside and tell him that he is lowering productivity because of his attitude.
This is the time to be a boss and set your friendship aside I know it is a hard thing to do but that?s the reason you lead.
Let him know that his replacement is ready to take over and he needs to take his great job by a certain date. And at that date he is to leave.
I know this sounds hard but you will find that there are a few people out there that do this on a regular basis. You need to let them know that they will not disrupt the company or the team.
There are the back stabbers, the people who ride the back of others the people who can get a better job and the people who just complain about every thing.
They need to be pointed in the right direction or be let go. You need to document every thing and keep a paper trail, in case it comes back to you.
I have been through the same thing a few times and it is not fun!

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by VNCoder In reply to Sorry but I

Thanks for that. I had the same feeling as well. Just want to be 100% sure that I am doing the right thing. Will talk to him in a few days time.

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You shouldn't encourage him

by ProejctManager In reply to I would let him know

As you're working for the company and you're in a reputable position, you should make friends, however ensure that you don't mix up friendship with office as it will cause you lot of overhead and inconvenience and it will also play a big role during decision time within the team, It's better to tell him positively and black & white during the review, As you need not worry about this and it's the person who should take it seriously.

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Determine and Deal With the Issues

by Wayne M. In reply to A conflict of interest: a ...

First, sit down and determine what the issues are and then take steps to resolve them. One should not be in the position of running to the CEO to deal with minor personnel issues.

What precisely are the issues that you are concerned about? Is the employee following the operating processes and procedures? Is he continually missing work? Does he have a bad attitude that is infecting the team? Is he working on a high risk task where losing a team member may put it in jeopardy?

Take a careful situation and separate the issues that actually affect the team from those that merely irritate you. He's not happy with whatever? Let him know where he needs to improve. He's been job hunting for two months now? Probably nothing is going to happen; if he really wanted to be out of there, he wold be. Is he staying within acceptable use policy of "personal emergency time"? If so, just let the rest of the team deal with it. If not, let him know the guidelines and hold him to them.

The key is to identify how he is affecting the team and let him know what steps are needed.

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Makes me wonder

by jdmercha In reply to A conflict of interest: a ...

If you're paying him better than market then you can assume that he won't be leaving. Yet your two situations assume that he will leave.

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Correct assumptions....

by VNCoder In reply to Makes me wonder

Yes, both situations (scenarios) assume that he will leave. Had a couple of talks with him already but he is undeterred and still want to find another place.
I pay him above the market because I value his input and that he has the potential to grow. However, that was before he told me that he is looking for another place.

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Is it possible

by jdclyde In reply to Correct assumptions....

that he is just saying he is leaving to either get attention (you begging him not to leave) or a bid to get more money out of you?

You have already stated he for some misguided reason thinks he should be making even more than he is, so he is probably hoping you will give him the raise so you can "keep him on".

Like I said in my other post, this guy is going to ruin your friendship if he keeps working for you because he is using your friendship to take advantage of you and the company.

This is NOT a good person to have as a friend.

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A REAL friend

by jdclyde In reply to A conflict of interest: a ...

would not take advantage of you, nor put you in such a bad situation.

You need to tell him flat out, do his job or give his notice.

Do not allow someone to pretend to be your friend and get you in major trouble at work. Anyone that was a REAL friend would NEVER put you in such a sistuation.

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