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can friendship go on forever

By a7s899 ·
I do not think friendship can do long,now,
everyone like money,they want to be rich,so many things become more and more unimportant to them ,such as friendship and love

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Yes it is - IF . . . . .

by maxwell edison In reply to can friendship go on for ...

It's not possible to "have a friend" if one is not willing (or able) to "be a friend".

Therefore, if you want a friendship to go on forever, you have to be a friend forever.

Of course, this opens up the discussion on what it takes to "be a friend". (But for now I'll just let that go wherever it goes.)

And yes, not only is it possible, but it's the best way to live one's life. (In my opinion, of course.)

Maxwell

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yep - pretty much

by TomSal In reply to Yes it is - IF . . . . .

First off you hit a bit of a picky spot with me on this topic. All through my young life I've been very picky and I guess the modern term would be "****" about calling people friends.

We've all got standards on what "IS" a friend. I know people left and right (I find this especially true with my female acquaintances, family members and associates) who say/act that they have tons and tons of friends.

I don't know why that seemingly innocent thing irks me but it does. A friend is not justsomeone you get drunk with or is around only for fun stuff. Yet so many define friends as such.

In my whole life, by most people's standards I've probably had 100 "friends" come and go. By *MY* standards of a friend, I can think of only three (unless you count my family members).

And I'm not even going into the "best" friend bit (How can one have multiple "BEST" friends? Doesn't that dilute the meaning of "BEST"? lol)

Anyway, I know this from my *nearly* 30 years on this planet, its MUCH MUCH harder to find a friend (by my standard) as you get older than it is when you are in your teens.

Take it easy.

later.

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You've got a friend

by maxwell edison In reply to yep - pretty much

When you're down and troubled
and you need a helping hand
and nothing, whoa nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me
and soon I will be there
to brighten up even your darkest nights.

You just call out my name,
and you know whereever I am
I'll come running, oh yeah baby
to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall,
all you have to do is call
and I'll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
You've got a friend.

If the sky above you
should turn dark and full of cloudsand that old north wind should begin to ****
Keep your head together and call my name out loud
and soon I will be knocking upon your door.

You just call out my name and you know where ever I am
I'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall
all you got to do is call
and I'll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Hey, ain't it good to know that you've got a friend?
People can be so cold.
They'll hurt you and desert you.
Well they'll take your soul if you let them.
Oh yeah, but don't you let them.

You just call out my name and you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again.
Oh babe, don't you know that,
Winter spring summer or fall,
Hey now, all you've got to do is call.
Lord, I'll be there, yes Iwill.
You've got a friend.
You've got a friend.
Ain't it good to know you've got a friend.
Ain't it good to know you've got a friend.
You've got a friend.


- Carole King

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What has this...

by jim.brown In reply to can friendship go on for ...

What has this got to do with Net Admin ?

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It may or may not be relevant - however

by maxwell edison In reply to What has this...

I had the same initial thought as you did when I first saw this question. However, since so much of our IT industry deals with people (Even though "friendship and love”, per se, isn't really a necessary factor), I thought that I’d go ahead and address his concerns.

There have been quite a few threads lately on such subjects as dealing with people, relating to one’s peers, handling customers, and the like. And the reason for those threads is certainly understandable, especially if you consider that understanding relations with people – the people using and maintaining the technology – is just as important (if not more so) as understanding a computer’s operating system. (Trying to understand one’s “personal” operating system, so to speak.)

I’ve found that many friendships are spawned and nurtured in the workplace. For many, the workplace is the only outlet for developing such relationships. Moreover, if one considers that maintaining a fully functional computer system involves maintaining an equally functional computer user system, then one could certainly understand the relevance of such a concern.

Whether or not the question was asked in such a context, we really have no way of knowing (at this point). In addition, the way the question was asked might lend itself to different interpretations. However, if we give this person the benefit of a doubt, and further give him or her the benefit of our experience, then perhaps, in some way, we can all be the benefactors of such a discussion.

Regards,

Maxwell

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James Taylor..good stuff

by TomSal In reply to It may or may not be rele ...

:) That's a great song Maxwell , "You've got a friend" - James Taylor sings it well.

As for the validity of the question, yeah I thought it was odd to see on an IT discussion board but what the heck - there are worse things to be accused of in this world (ESPECIALLY today's world) than someone who posts off-topic threads in a message board community.

AND...at least it wasn't a stupid question.

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James Taylor..good stuff

by TomSal In reply to It may or may not be rele ...

:) That's a great song Maxwell , "You've got a friend" - James Taylor sings it well.

As for the validity of the question, yeah I thought it was odd to see on an IT discussion board but what the heck - there are worse things to be accused of in this world (ESPECIALLY today's world) than someone who posts off-topic threads in a message board community.

AND...at least it wasn't a stupid question.

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Yes - Friendship can go on forever

by mrafrohead In reply to James Taylor..good stuff

I think that friendship can go on forever... But the catch is, identifying a true FRIEND...

Think of your spouse if you're married... My wife is my best friend. I honestly can't think of a friend I have ever had that was better friend than sheis.

Also, I have had a few other real friends in my short life. Hundreds and hundreds of acquaintences, but only a FEW REAL friends...

Friends are definately different than your drinking buddies/party buddies/f**k buddies.

A friend will help you when no one else would and not interogate why you're asking them for help. A friend will take the time to listen to you when you need them to, even though they have something more important to do. A friend will always be there for you - and make sure that you know it. Most important, a friend knows that you also would do the same for them. Without hesitation, without a doubt.

Just remember though, friendship and acquaintances are very different, even though sometimes they feel similar. Make sure you know who your friends really are...

mrafrohead
@yahoo.com

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workplace=people people=relationships

by qba98 In reply to It may or may not be rele ...

My experience has been that friendships are largely a byproduct of proximity, common interest and trust; trust more so than the other two.

More specifically, not just trust in the sense that someone would not stab you in the back, but trust in a larger sense--such that a person has an understanding of you and you of them, and the two of you would not use such understandings to the detriment of the other, but rather would use it to help each other.

By this definition of friendship, it become clear that most people you meet or know are not your friends, since most people in the world have no interest in understanding you nor helping you.

Strangely, the workplace creates a sort of friendship conundrum, because, ideally, everyone is working toward the same goal—the success of the company—so they may appear to be helpful like a friend. And since the other two elements of friendship are present—proximity and common interest (you are after all working at thesame place)—it can be hard to discern who is a friend and who is just a fellow good employee and team player.

Of course, enemies are even harder to discern sometimes, but that’s a different thread.

Qba

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Friends and Enemies...

by TomSal In reply to workplace=people people ...

"Keep your friends close...keep your enemies closer"

That's a lose translation of a quote from a medeval period - chinese warlord.

(In fact in the martial arts world, several of the "arts" adhere to this very basic priniciple in one way or the other)

Interesting concept....

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