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Career counseling?

By Menace65 ·
I'm at a point in my career where I've basically been doing the same thing for almost 15 years. I used to really enjoy it, but when I started becoming involved in projects, and branching out into other areas, I'm finding myself disillusioned by my current job.

I'm basically responsible for being the administrator of security for one product, and the technical support/developer of a completely different product, all the while handling general technical support of all the products we use in our company. I received a new title, but all that did was to pile on additional responsibilities on top of what I had already been doing. I don't agree with the way my manager runs my department, and while she *says* that she's all ears for suggestions, she really does not want to hear any.

I'm frustrated, and I'm also feeling like I have no true purpose in this job any more. I'm truly wondering what my next steps should be. I have been with this company for 6 years, and I've only ever left a job once of my own accord (aside from moving to another state and being laid off). I almost wish I were laid off so I could have a fire lit under me to find something else.

My real question is, has anyone found career counseling to be beneficial? I'm so wrapped up in my current job that any thoughts to what I would want to do next are very disorganized and so I feel stuck.

I'm the emitome of the jack of all trades, master of none (I never have a chance to truly learn the ins and outs of anything because I'm pulled in so many directions).

I have been told I am the glue that holds the department together, but I feel myself becoming unglued and isolating myself. I truly have no one to talk to about this situation I am in, because on the one hand, I'm so grateful to have a job, but on the other I feel that life is too short to feel this way about where I'm currently working.

I have lost a lot of respect for some of the people I work with due to certain decisions made because of an unhealthy manager/subordinate relationship (working relationship), and find the department as a whole just not the same as when I first started (and really enjoyed the job and the people).

I've also lost my sense of humor and feel so detached. I'd like to hear from people who may have been in this situation and how they managed to hang on or move on.

I realize that I've rambled, but appreciate your reading. Thank you.

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Career Counseling, Life Coaching, and.....

by robo_dev In reply to Career counseling?

perhaps plain old fashioned therapy, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Any sort of counseling gives you a chance to make sense of what is going on, evaluate what the issues are, both within yourself and the external situation, and try to move forward in a positive direction.

This would give you perspective, which is something that we all lose when you're knee-deep in the swamp.

Any form of counseling is a better alternative than drowning in a defeatist world of alcohol-fueled gluttony, porn, and drugs (though perhaps less fun).

Every situation/person is different, but you need to think about your strengths and talents and work to fix both the job situation and yourself.

Beware that depression can kill you, and that often the root cause can be physical (hormone levels and lack of exercise) and not necessarily a chemical imbalance that requires drugs.

Before you can get motivated to figure out if you can fix where you work, or it's time to move on, you may need to do some work on yourself.

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