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Feel uncomfortable of resignation

By jiansec ·
I would like to resign in these two weeks since I have already accepted another offer. This is my first company and I am the only person to do the work. Though I know my current offer is better for me and current company cannot offer me the same opportunity, I still feel uneasy and some guilty to resign and confront my boss and colleagues. Honestly, most of them are nice to me. I don't know how to bring the resignation topic. Just walk into my boss's office to give the resignation letter? If they ask the reason, what is better explanation? For sure, I will give them 2-3 weeks notice. I want to do it glacefully and professionally.

Thanks for your input.

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by mjd420nova In reply to Feel uncomfortable of res ...

Make up a formal letter of resignation and present it to your boss. If he needs to know, let him know exactly why you're leaving...
Better opportunity, benefits, pay, ETC.
Don't feel guilty and try not to let them know where you're going unless really neccesary, as
you already have the job and don't need them for

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by noyoki In reply to Resign

"...and try not to let them know where you're going unless really neccesary, as you already have the job and don't need them for references."

Why would you need to hide this?

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Self preservation

by amcol In reply to Why...?

It's no one's business where we go and what we do when we leave a company.

In this case the original poster clearly feels some level of responsibility for those he/she is leaving behind. Laudable, but misplaced. Six months from now, if the old company knows where he/she is going, they'll still be calling for advice and instructions and who knows what. With the feelings the poster has, he/she will be unable to say no to these requests and will be unable to move on or be successful in the new job.

Cut the cord. Guilt-free.

To the original poster: resignations are best done quickly and concisely. You owe no one any explanations. Here's the perfect resignation letter:

"To Whom It May Concern:

I resign effective (fill in the date).

Sincerely, ......"

You are under no obligation to explain, either in writing or at a formal exit interview. Be professional, be friendly, maintain your relationships (you never know when you might need a reference in the future), don't leave any loose ends...but never, ever explain.

In resignations, as in many things, less is more.

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by noyoki In reply to Self preservation

> Laudable, but misplaced. Six months from now, if the old company knows where he/she is going, they'll still be calling for advice and instructions and who knows what.

True, lord knows I still call the person that was here before me (but that's slightly different, we knew each other in high school... lol). She moved on to start her own consulting business. I don't know what I would have done a few times if I didn't have a phone number to ask a quick "the server's on fire!" type question. If we needed to have her come back in, of course, she would be paid her rate (she's also the resident Juris expert).

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That is soooo unprofessional

by Mart1n In reply to True

There is enough stress with a new job without the old one chipping in.
I agree will previous posts. Cut it professionally, within contracted terms, complete any transitions etc and go.
There should be no guilt, this is business and if the company wanted to leave you they wouldn?t think twice of making you redundant but hopefully in the same professional way.

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So then what are friends for?

by noyoki In reply to That is soooo unprofessio ...

So then the next time you get stuck, you don't ask a friend for help. Good to know, I thought that's what friends were for. If she had a problem, she knows she can call me, and if I could help, I will. She has made the same clear for me. Isn't that what friends *are* for?

I ask another friend of mine (again, met him in college) for help on whatever. He asks me as well. Does it matter that he and I have never worked together in a business setting vs my ex- coworker where she and I have?

Where is the difference here?

(Lol, also, they didn't "make her redundant", they didn't want to let her go. She left to start her own company.)

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recently left after 22 years

by DanLM In reply to Resign

I have recently left a place where I worked for 22 years. My reasons were different then yours due to I was relocating to another state to remarry.
Prior to leaving, I let all of my supervisors know what I was planning to do. I submitted my resignation letter at least a month in advance so that the work load could be spread out, and any knowledge transfer could occur with some type of planning.
In my resignation letter I stated my reasons for leaving, and also that I felt it was an honer to have had the chance to work with everyone there.
I asked each and every supervisor if I could use them for references, and was granted this privelage.
I work with main frames/cobol/cics, so I have had some trouble getting a position where I am currently located at. But, I can tell you this. Becaause of the way I left my previous employment and my work ethic while I was there. I have potental employers tell me that I have received glowing endorsements from my references which they considered highly reptutable due to them being all my previous employers.
I know this does not occur with all jobs, but as this topic says. The people I worked with were good profesional people, and they understood the reason I was leaving. They wished me nothing but the best, and that is still being reflected in their respone's to the responses. I also still answer e-mails from them when they ask questions on previous projects I worked on, where they feel I could provide some insight to something.

Dan Miller

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by mark.fleming In reply to Resign

First, look at your current employment contract. Pull it out of your file and read it closely.
- How much notice do they require? You don't want to get caught where your contract says you must give 4 weeks notice and you expect to give two.
- Are you allowed to have contact with the company after you leave? Some have strict limits since they don't want you taking staff with you.
- Some employers have contracts where you can not go to a competitor, a client or to start a similar company. Check this before you accept that new job.
- Double check benefits, etc.
- Wait until the new year, if you can. I believe that I had my bonus reduced when I left my last company by giving my notice in December. I wish I would have waited until January. You may also get your 401k match, etc. Plus, it is easier for your current company to interview in the new year. Holidays are bad for interviewing since so many managers are out.

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by jkameleon In reply to Feel uncomfortable of res ...

First of all- there's absolutely no need to feel guilty. Whatever you do for salary- someone else makes far more money from your work than you do.

> This is my first company and I am the only person to do the work.

Not your business, not your profit, not your problem. If you are indeed the only person to do the job, they can always hire you as a consultant.

> Honestly, most of them are nice to me.

That means nothing, unless they express their sympathies towards you by the means of banknotes.

> If they ask the reason, what is better explanation?

You don't owe them any explanation. Exit interviews are not for free. Good references are usually offered in return. If you can't avoid such rude questions though, "I got a better offer" will be more than enough.

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Re: Resignation

by j.ringham In reply to Feel uncomfortable of res ...

I think that the professional way to do it would be to ask your boss for a brief meeting. During the meeting present your resignation. When asked why you are leaving I would have several reasons to give, whether it's more money or new challenges or a chance to learn new technology. I have found over the years that it is best to be as amicable as possible when leaving as you never know when you may end up working with the same people again, at a new company or at your old one a second time around.

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