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By Sweet/Bitter ·
The state employee is a difficult soul . They are given several holidays, paid very little, have excellent insurance benefits and retirement, leave and most promotions are given after TIME served or basically WHO YOU KNOW! I have been afforded alot of change in my duties because I volunteer for every type of NEW assignment given. I am now in an assistant supervisor position where there is a secretary, the supervisor and 7 other persons in a unit. THERE are coworkers who require no assistance and others who basically should not be doing the job at all. I enjoy talking to people at work when at xerox machine, in route to another part of building,break time, etc., but I am a different soul when interrupted in my workplace. I feel that you have been given a job to do and YOU SHOULD DO IT TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILTIY. YOU ARE EARNING A PAYCHECK, which alot of people wish they had-WHY ARE you hear to waste time---and if I see a waste of time, then input should be put in writing to let you know that this is your job and not a playground. I an not liked...I know alot of people are upset with me based on this belief. I am not looking for friends. I have husband,kids,social activities,etc. TODAY, I was told I was emotionally ill by an employee who is unable to keep up. She stated, your tone is condescending. My mother and husband have told me this...What can I do to improve this? What can I read?, HELP?

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by fred07 In reply to my attitude

Hi

Always remember the person you are speaking to has a brain as good as yours

fred

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by Oldefar In reply to my attitude

We often fail to see and hear ourselves as others do. Rather than reading something, why not try doing an audio or video tape of yourself as if you were talking to that employee. Later play it back and see if you hear or see what you were trying to convey, or if you hear or see a condescending tone. Keep at this exercise until your recording matches your mental image of how you want to come across.

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by RealGem In reply to my attitude

I understand exactly how you feel, because I've been seeing it for years. You see it in unionized shops quite frequently, but they're not the only place.

My advice: be all that you can be, but don't worry about the others. You'll only end up getting frustrated. Enjoy your work, be proud of it, but always treat others with respect.

As for the condescension, I obviously cannot comment on that. But remember that, no matter what you intend, if people see something else in what you say and do, then you have to manage that.

It is *very* dangerous to start thinking that, just because you outperform others, you are superior in all respects. Stay humble, happy, and helpful.

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by mcgrewdavid In reply to my attitude

I have always told myself, "Who cares what people think about me, or judge me". Sounds like you are an employee that many companies would want. As long as you are doing your job, do not let other people get to you. If you are not happy with your job, find another one, while you are still working your regular job.

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by DC_GUY In reply to my attitude

In the U.S., government is the employer of last resort.

That cuts both ways. It means that civil service is full of highly skilled women, people with disabilities, and others who have trouble getting a fair deal in the private sector. But it is also full of people who couldn't make it outside but managed to pass probation in civil service. It's a cross between socialism and welfare.

I took a job with a large municipal government straight out of college. For a few years I enjoyed goofing off a lot and still easily getting my work done in four hours a week. But eventually I developed ambition and a concscience and a desire to contribute. First I got a reputation as a really good supervisor, so I ended up with all the problem employees. Then I got into staff work, learned every new way to improve IT processes and was given the job of making each of them work in civil service. That was one heartbreak after another.

After 28 years of this, when I should have been kicking back and marking time till retirement, I walked out and started over in the private sector.

It has been pure ****. I'm too old, I'm a mainframe jockey, my resume shouts "warning: civil service attitude", I'm too naive to spot a con, and I never learned to manage my own money.

But despite the hardship, my wife says I have been so much more healthy and pleasant to live with, that it's worth it. She was worried that I'd have a nervous breakdown before I got to retire.

My advice? Don't wait until you've put in 28 years. Nothing's going to change there. If you're fed up with it now, start looking while you're still young enough, smart enough, marketable enough, and mobile enough to make the change. Don't make your husband sit all day with his fingers crossed, hoping not to get a call saying that you've been hauled off to the psych ward.

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by Sunnywillshine In reply to my attitude

You and I seem to have the same work ethic. Too bad more people don't share our beliefs... then we wouldn't seem like such horribly mean supervisors. LOL!

When I first became a manager, I felt exactly as you described. People should be doing the job they are getting paid to do and I'm not out to make friends. When I began to lose employees, it crossed my mind that maybe my attitude was too much for most people - especially those with no other goals than to get a paycheck each week.

I began to think about the managers I have worked with during my career and what it was about them I liked and disliked... who I learned the most and least from. It dawned on me that the best managers I've ever had were not pushovers and they didn't micro-manage. Their high expectations and trust in me forced me to set higher standards for myself and kept (continue to keep) my career challenging. At the same time... they actually seemed to relay a feeling of compassion and caring about me as a person. Their was a sense of mutual respect between us.

There is a book called Understanding and Changing Your Management Style by Robert Benfari. I found it to be exceptional in helping me to understand what I could and couldn't change, and what I did and didn't want to change about my management style. It also helped me recognize employees and co-workers with real potential and gave me some useful tools to use in communicating with them in non-threatening and respectful ways.

My advise... read this book and the clock-watchers won't be able to hamper your ethically correct attitude!

Best of luck!

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by JSchiel In reply to my attitude

I would also recommend "Working With Emotional Intelligence."

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by timmedsker In reply to my attitude

Over years of being a Supervisor, I have found that the way you treat people grossly contributes to their performance. I have numerous requests to come to my shift because of the way I treat the employees. My current staff is loyal to me, as I am to them. Don't lead by intimidaion but become smarter. Learn how to motivate.

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by MsIT In reply to my attitude

You sound like me! Problem is, I'm a gov employee with this work attitude and it's not good for me. I left a gov job after 22 yrs and transferred to another (Hated it - LAZY people). Transferred again after 2 1/2 yrs. I like this job, but the scenery is the same - LAZY people. I have learned to do the job I was hired to do well and I won't have time to focus on what others are doing. It took some learning and heartaches, but I'm getting there. Good luck to you. They say 20% of the people do the work 80% of the time.

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