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by santeewelding

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Don't worry. I have not yet congealed about her death. I like to think I have with respect to my own; only, the real deal happening around me with others has, and keeps intruding, on my thoughts. Those thoughts are as yet not quite settled.

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by delbertpgh

It's a clobbering experience. I didn't speak to her all that often; we exchanged e-mails, and sometimes a phone conversation, a couple of times a month. I saw her about once a year.

I drew a lot of comfort from knowing she was ticking away there in Florida, and now she's not any more. It's disconcerting, every day. Each time I pick up something of hers, life slows down and I get gloomy again. I spend more time thinking about her in her absence than I did when she was alive. If you were very close, I imagine the dislocation must be that much more intense.

by boxfiddler Hot topic

since my Mom died. I still talk out loud to her, think at her. And now and then when something super-cool happens, I think, "Ooh. Gotta call Mom."

by jamesrl

My only guidance is that while there are stages to greiving, only you can know when its right and proper to move to the next stage. No one should dictate for you. Moving quickly or slowly doesn't mean you loved her more or less.

My wife and her brother just "celebrated" my father in laws birthday last week. He passed last November and they still grieve.

James

by shellbot

Take your time in your own way.. we understand.

Your post is a reminder for me to try locate my mother this weekend.

by jellimonsta

and I will make sure to give them to my Mother when I see her in 2 weeks for the first time in 16 months.
Best wishes. :(

by rob miners

My Mother passed away in 1988 at the age of fifty four. Dad passed away six years later at age sixty six. Mum was a victim of the dreaded C and Dad had a combination of the dreaded C and a broken heart. Not a day goes by that I don't think of them. It does get easier over time but it still hurts.

by santeewelding

I have said little to nothing of all this to the many "real" with whom I deal locally and immediately.

It is this congregation of quiet souls that has come to constitute depth and immediacy for me.

Thus, do I speak of it.

by boxfiddler Hot topic

she would, too. Not only would she disapprove, she'd tell me where it goes, why, and then ask, "Haven't I taught you anything?". ;)

etu

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