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Re: my mother

By santeewelding ·
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Don't worry. I have not yet congealed about her death. I like to think I have with respect to my own; only, the real deal happening around me with others has, and keeps intruding, on my thoughts. Those thoughts are as yet not quite settled.


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Take my hand.

by boxfiddler Moderator In reply to Re: my mother

Sit quietly with me. I'll try not to squirm.

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I'm sorry

by Ed Woychowsky In reply to Re: my mother

I lost my mother a little over a year ago and understand how you feel. It will get easier.

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Mine died three months ago

by DelbertPGH In reply to Re: my mother

It's a clobbering experience. I didn't speak to her all that often; we exchanged e-mails, and sometimes a phone conversation, a couple of times a month. I saw her about once a year.

I drew a lot of comfort from knowing she was ticking away there in Florida, and now she's not any more. It's disconcerting, every day. Each time I pick up something of hers, life slows down and I get gloomy again. I spend more time thinking about her in her absence than I did when she was alive. If you were very close, I imagine the dislocation must be that much more intense.

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"and now she's not"

by santeewelding In reply to Mine died three months ag ...


It's hard to get hold of "not".

Thank you.

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Still happens to me

by NickNielsen In reply to Mine died three months ag ...

After 14 years.

Dang, gotta go. Pollen count appears to be up...

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Nine years

by boxfiddler Moderator In reply to Mine died three months ag ...

since my Mom died. I still talk out loud to her, think at her. And now and then when something super-cool happens, I think, "Ooh. Gotta call Mom."

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I think your mom

by santeewelding In reply to Nine years

Would disapprove of the lack of a semi-colon.

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I think

by boxfiddler Moderator In reply to I think your mom

she would, too. Not only would she disapprove, she'd tell me where it goes, why, and then ask, "Haven't I taught you anything?".


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by santeewelding In reply to I think

We have to let our children go.

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Sorry to hear

by JamesRL In reply to Re: my mother

My only guidance is that while there are stages to greiving, only you can know when its right and proper to move to the next stage. No one should dictate for you. Moving quickly or slowly doesn't mean you loved her more or less.

My wife and her brother just "celebrated" my father in laws birthday last week. He passed last November and they still grieve.


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