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Reeling from being FIRED. What just happened here?

By marysonthego ·
I've been out of the computer business for about 5 years. I thought I was on the hot career track, but life happened. Nuf said, that's not why I'm typing away here for the first time, anyway. After a long, hard search, I managed to snag a little IT job with a small local company. Help Desk for about 130 users. IT department consisted of 4 people total, myself included. We had a server admin - female, a database guy, a manager guy, and then me.

I was excited but nervous about my new job. Having been out of things so long I felt kind of intimidated and worried that my knowledge was way out of date. I figured logic and research would save me - it always had in the past. In that distant past I'd had a stellar career spending 8 years at a huge company where I worked and studied my way to the "buck-stops-here" level of tech support before moving up to development. This was followed by 3 years at another big place where I reveled in doing original Java development. R & D was such fun! But after 5 years doing nothing much more than setting up a wireless network in my house, I was worried about being able to handle support for the XP boxes and Windows servers.
Best I can figure, the people at the new shop were a bit intimidated by my heavy resume. What they didn't realize was that I was just as intimidated by them! Things got off to a rocky start when I discovered the sad state of their SOPs for building new user machines. They used a lot of apps I'd never heard of and between my lack of knowledge and their lack of documentation I spent a lot of time taking notes and asking questions. It took me. I tackled the task of rewriting some of the worst SOPs, until I was told that wasn't my job. I wasn't trying to step on anybody's toes, it just seemed logical to me that the person using the documentation was in the best position to update it. Right from the start the other female in the department seemed to be on the attack. I've worked with lots of different people in my time, but never with anyone so nasty! I didn't believe she meant all the mean things she said at first, and just smiled or shrugged it off. But, you know, it started to get worse. She would tell me to do something, which I'd do, then when the boss came along later and yelled at me that I'd done it all wrong, she denied ever telling me to do it that way. I may be naive, but this was a first. A co-worker who tells you to do things the wrong way then lies about it?

About 3 weeks in to my new job, I finally decided I had to tell the boss what was going on. I'd never had to approach a boss with this kind of thing before and I didn't know how to go about it. In the end, I sent him an email detailing a couple of very specific incidents where I was blamed for nothing more than doing exactly what she told me. Can you guess what his response was? Nothing! I might as well have sent my email to the bit bucket! He never mentioned it at all. It was as though I had used the wrong fork at a formal banquet and everybody knew about it but no one was going to say anything. This went on for a few days until it was time for a review. He seemed very angry with me, and I thought for sure he was going to fire me right then. But no. He actually couldn't come up with anything bad to say about my work other than those specific things I'd put in my email. These he didn't mention at all, and in fact told me I was really keeping that ticket queue down very well. He looked like it killed him to say it. I kept my head up and finally realized that I was in big trouble. I started sending (polite) confirming emails to the other female everytime she gave me an order. I wanted things documented for my own protection. But after a couple of days of that he called me into his office and told me in no uncertain terms that I was to stop sending emails. If I had anything to say to him I should come to his office and say it.

I was fired six weeks into my new job. I was on my way to work Monday morning when my cell went off. It was the HR manager calling from the company to tell me that I was fired. When I asked her why, she said I made too many mistakes.

One other bit of info I should tell you is that the last person to have my job (a guy) was also fired.

I want to know what kind of experiences you others have had in the workplace. I'm sure this is not the worst thing that's ever happened to anybody on the job, just the worst that's ever happened to me!

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Something different

by Morti In reply to Reeling from being FIRED. ...

What an experience. I can understand why you are reeling. It sounds like they did not give you any specific examples of your mistakes.

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by walkerdude In reply to Something different

what would this something different be? please let me know contact me directly in UK

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Women don't know how to work as a team

by aheishman In reply to Something different

It has been my experience that women spend entirely too much time fighting among themselves at the bottom of the ladder. No wonder why so few make it to the top. I should know because I'm an IT Tech woman, I've only had two women that I couldn't seem to work with and it was jealousy on their part. Kind of sad because women offer so much in the IT field, patience being one.

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Not true

by christineeve In reply to Women don't know how to w ...

Women can be competative, but they can work as a team. It comes from the top down.

One of the best jobs I've ever had was with an all female department.

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a bit offended

by tabby80 In reply to Women don't know how to w ...

I'm a little put off by your remarks. I'm also a woman in IT and feel I work very will with others. If there IS a problem, it should be addressed so it doesn't interfere with work, then move on. Perhaps you should take a closer look at yourself to find out why you have such a problem with other women.

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nothing to do with you been a woman

by navz24 In reply to a bit offended

there is nothing to do with who you are and where you come from. it comes from over zealous people who dont know hot to bow down when knowing that you have done something good for the organisation which could even benefit them in the long run. dont worry about you been fired. like i always say " they lost you!you didnt loose s**t" if you are good then this is a good eye opener for you and a good experience . what you did was perfectly write by trying to Document and keep it in paper. i am sure your boss had something going on with this other female worker of yours for sure
keep it real

p.s btw to all you men. i am man myself but i have come across guys as worse or even more dont catagorise someones Sex,race,religion

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by Too Old For IT In reply to nothing to do with you be ...

I worked for a guy once who "couldn't trust you" unless you belonged to the same parish of "the one true church" that he did.

Long story, but lucky for me it only took a ocuple months to get my health back.

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Woman don't know how to work as a team?

by dak1010 In reply to Women don't know how to w ...

Wow, speaking as a man, that sounds completely sad that u actually believe this. That's like saying all drivers from the state of Mass are terrible! Does that statement have any logic to it? No it's sterotypical garbage. I pray for your firm's sake that you are not in charge of any hiring decisions there. Where did you say you worked again?

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Women do work as teams

by kruegerc In reply to Women don't know how to w ...

Sorry to hear you've had bad experiences. I've worked in IT jobs for 15 years and have had great experiences with the women and men I've worked with all along the way. Here in Michigan every single one has been eager to help the other. We often share information to help move projects along. When we do have problems we try to sit down togehter to resolve issues we might have.

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They kinda work as a team..

by Eternal Confusion In reply to Women do work as teams

I have found over the years that women want to work as a team, but if you shut them down on a matter, or go against them, they tend to become eternally bitter.

I have one where I work now that is pushing the Microsoft platform in an environment that has been successful for years. She made a lot of bad decisions and forced a lot of poor decisions on the team in terms of sotware and now the best backpeddle is to push in another direction and blamethe problems on the platform. Tech Directorgoes against it and it is his problem becuase he is insecure and not training in MS, problem solved.

Women tend to get to emotional and use the I feel your pain theory to much with technology. Customer service is a good thing, but you need to know when to say, "I am sorry, we just cannot support that with ou current paltform or infrastructure".

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